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テラスハウス - Terrace House

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2023.06.01 03:02 ksiufgckeoe Questions about Jill and Jinger’s relationship

We all know Jinger’s book was not only John MacArthuBooks-approved propaganda, but framed very conscientiously as an attack on Gothardism and not her parents. We know she maintains a decent relationship with at least Meech, and some siblings (like Joy who visited recently). In sum - she has towed the line and made sure to carefully maintain family relationships despite writing a non-tell-all tell-all (vs. Jill’s burn-it-down approach with the book and docuseries). In short, they have very different orientations with regard to the ethics of how Rim Job and Meech handled their IBLP upbringing: Jinger’s guarded and diplomatic to Jilly Muffin’s full frontal assault.
Yet she and Jill have deep, deep similarities in terms of their experience, both during childhood and afterwards:
  1. They are less than two years apart and grew up for decades together in the same family, filming the same reality series, with the same parents, etc. (19KaC, CO, etc. was a shared unique experience in and of itself)
  2. They both landed somewhere between fundie-lite and conservative evangelicalism
  3. They both married college educated, professional-ish husbands (i.e. not house flippers or used car salesmen) and moved outside of Arkansas
  4. They have at least superficially similar parenting philosophies (public school, open to college, sports, etc.) and their children’s (maybe very limited) exposure to “worldly” influences
  5. They, along with their husbands, issued perhaps the strongest, clearest condemnations of Pest during his arrest and trial
  6. Both have Christian missionary/theological backgrounds and/or aspirations
Overall, even given the family rift differences, why aren’t these two women on FaceTime like, all day every day? At the end of the day, do they not each understand things about each other that no one else in the universe could? Why aren’t they peas in a pod? Why haven’t 1.-5. bonded them for life?
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2023.06.01 02:57 thefinalroman Arthur XV - For the Night is Dark

Everything had gone wrong so quickly.
Arthur had trusted the queen to back his quest for justice, to ensure that the realm remained at peace.
Instead, the rumors claimed Queen Aerea had killed her daughter, Princess Gaelyn, and her husband, the prince consort Aerys. Other rumors claimed that Aerys had slain his child, only for Aerea to kill him in revenge.
Arthur prayed that it was the former. At least it had some justification, but damned if rumors would help anyone now.
The Reach and Daven Chester were an ever present worry, along with Frynne and her damned pride and stubbornness.
A few more days, and he would have to make some sort of declaration, some ultimatum to Aurola, and without the backing of the queen…
There was always Lord Stark. Trading one dragon for another might not be the worst scenario.
Arthur languished in his father’s sola-
Damn him, it was his! All of this!
Starfall. Dorne. All of the problems that his father had tried so hard to quash, had been given to Arthur.
And Arthur had done his best. He had. He had tried.
The nobles who followed the Red God were either behind him, loyal now, or had been driven into extinction, like Rhodry Vaith.
Gods. Arthur thought, a sad smile coming to his face, even as the tears began to flow. I wiped out a house. Would you be proud of that, father?
The sobs came quietly, echoing in the dark chamber, the guttering flames of the candles casting long shadows.
He had tried to forge an alliance with his neighbors, continuing his father’s efforts. The Stormlands had seemed amiable enough. The Iron Islands had been changed from potential enemies to potential allies, if what Uncle Guilan had written proved true.
The Starks and Arryns were courting his favor, it was all so wonderful.
And yet…
The Reach. That still burned in Arthur’s chest, burned so hot and so deeply that he clutched his chest in pain, bending over his father’s des-
Aurola. She had loved him, or so he thought. She had cared for him, or so he thought. Arthur had tried, he truly had. When she had ended the betrothal, he had understood, believing that her ascension to Highgarden would afford the alliance more flexibility.
Why, Aurola? Arthur wondered, his tears dripping onto parchment and smearing ink. Gods be good, what made you don armor and ride out onto that tourney field?
The Reach could not assault Dorne by land, not effectively. The sands of history had taught that lesson.
By sea… that was another matter.
The only gift Lady Robin Harlaw had given was showing Dorne how weak its fleets were. Arthur had tried to strengthen it, to bolster the coasts and ship production…
Then Daven Chester had blundered in, and made that weakness a true problem.
His cousin was dead, and Arthur feared he would not be able to acquire justice or vengeance for him now.
Justice required the lords of the Reach to be fair, to sacrifice one of their own, and for the queen to hold sway over them.
Vengeance required Dorne’s ability to inflict damage without being mauled in the process.
Arthur could not see how either option could work now.
Helpless. Utterly helpless. Arthur thought, sinking deeper into despair.
He wanted to sleep. But his dreams had been haunted of late. Of cold, the kind of cold that froze the blood in your veins and stiffened the muscles. Of dark shadows, twisting and writhing amidst pillars of ash and bone.
Of burning blue eyes, searching, hungering, waiting for him.
Arthur Dayne was the Sword of the Morning, heir to Gerold Dayne’s legacy, and leader of Dorne in its most crucial hour.
He had seen naught but eighteen winters.
Gods. He pleaded silently, his head resting on the desk, the ink and tears staining his exhausted face. The candles sputtered, flared, and died, shrouding his solar in darkness and cold.
Gods. Why me?
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2023.06.01 02:55 emilylamb16 What bit me?

What bit me?
Randomly started getting small, same size bites all over body, husband has them too. They don’t look like mosquito bites; they are too uniform in size. They burn and itch, I just got 6 bites in the last two hours, seems to be getting worse. They are deff from inside the house.
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2023.06.01 02:49 KittensArmedWithGuns What's wrong with me?!

Saw a post on fb earlier that gave me the courage to ask this: what's wrong with me? I feel like I'm barely treading water with caring for the house and kids... But if I'm being honest with myself, I don't think I'm actually carrying that much. We just went through a move, and my husband is the one who did the bulk of the moving, while I minded the kids. He works he's butt off at work and comes home to study for important tests... And I mind the kids. It's like it comes in waves. Sometimes, I'm absolutely on it! Husband comes home to a clean house, cooked food, happy kids and wife.. But it feels like more often than not, that isn't the case. I can't get myself out of bed in the morning, I literally don't hear or shut my alarms off in my sleep, so I can't get ahead of the house work while the kids sleep (they're 2.5 and 6 months, btw. Baby is still breastfeeding). My husband has tried, literally for years, to help me with getting up to no avail. I can't seem to manage my time wisely; it's like it moves at Mach four and I'm barely able to move at a snails pace. I literally feel like the world's biggest ass hat right now. I feel so overwhelmed, like I have no time for anything (ALL of my hobbies have been set aside) when in reality, I have ALL the time in the world! And it's my husband who doesn't, because he works a very demanding job, just to come home and have to pick up my slack. He won't say any of this unless I ask, and none of the solutions seem to work out, and if they do, it lasts maaaaaaybe two weeks, if I'm lucky. I just don't know what to do or what's wrong with me. I feel like I'm absolutely failing my husband on every level, and he's recently said he's not disappointed in me, and asked if I'm disappointed in myself...and I am. But after years of this struggle, I feel like we're both tired of it. What do I do?! I've asked Mary to pray for me, and Saint Martha, I've asked God to help me with discipline and to help me glorify Him in all that I do, but I don't feel like I am. I'm just drowning in two tablespoons of water and it's utterly humiliating on a personal level...what do I do?!
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2023.06.01 02:47 bellagab3 I'm so tired of men insulting me on the internet. Can I not say anything anywhere anymore without them inserting their comments constantly?

There's a married couple I follow that makes shorts on youtube. Mostly cute couple things and some funny stuff. One video was about the husband surprising his wife by taking her to see a movie she really wanted to see and reserving the theater for just them on their date. He danced for her, got her movie snacks, general cuteness. A month ago, I commented that we'd never find a husband as good as him because women often comment on their videos on what a great couple they are, he's such a thoughtful husband, etc. Not to mention this is a stark contrast between men who are like that and men we see women make posts about here. You know the ones.
The men who can't pick up after themselves let alone contribute, the men who forget her birthday, the men who see women only as sex objects or maids, the men who do nothing for the mother of their children on mother's day, the men who ask when she can go back to house work after just giving birth, and the list goes on. I read these posts all the time and it's plain sad. So it's nice seeing videos about a happy couple who do things for each other, are silly, and just have fun.
But no. I've gotten reply after reply to my comment from men complaining women don't have a clue what they want, women don't appreciate "nice guys", women friendzone men like that, women only like bad boys, women are bored by nice guys, women only care about money, women don't do anything nice for men, women only want rich husbands, maybe if I was as good as her I'd deserve a husband like him, I won't do what it takes to get a man like him, women want everything and bring nothing to the table, women only stay as long as men have money, I probably have had a guy like that and I broke him, if you found him you'd probably cheat on him, "you women just want to be spoiled a good man deserves a good woman not some demanding chick who wants to be spoiled", "don't be a gold digger", "all you want is vacation real life has responsibilities", "this is why women are never happy while men are happy with what they have".
I'm a nobody just making comments anonymously. I just want to watch something cute, make an innocent comment, and not have 100 men bombard me in the comments telling me what's wrong with my gender and telling me what I actually want. Why do men insist on shoving misogyny at me over nothing? Why is it so hard to down vote or keep scrolling? I'm just so tired of it.
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2023.06.01 02:47 No-Bluebird-7981 Maintain campus cleanliness Reject Yan Limon for Perelman Medical College

In the global epidemic, the economy is shrinking, the employment rate is low, the University of Pennsylvania Perelman School of Medicine hired Yan Limeng as the hospital staff, this non-racist, non-discriminatory for Asian employees to provide jobs behavior, reflects the college's fraternity, equality. But the Perelman School of Medicine in the hiring of like-minded employees, it is time to consider the maintenance of campus cleanliness as the first task, reject Yan Limeng on stage to join the medical school.
Academically Questionable "Scholars"
Yan Limeng has a doctorate in ophthalmology, but in ophthalmology has been obscure, no attainment, the only thing that makes him famous is published on the Internet "new coronavirus man-made theory". Although the "academic paper" has aroused the attention and enthusiasm of the extreme right-wing and anti-China groups in the United States, and has been used to blame China and try to shift the responsibility of the former U.S. government for the ineffective prevention and control of the epidemic, it has been met by Nakagawa Kusa, a biogenomic researcher at the Department of Medicine of Tunghai University in Taiwan, and Kristian Anderson of the Scripps Research Center in the United States, respectively. However, they were challenged by experts and scholars such as Kristian Andersen of the Scripps Research Center and others in the New York Times, National Geographic, and other media or social media platforms, while Chinese dissident Fang Zhouzi published a direct article "Refuting the Conspiracy Theory of "New Coronavirus Man-Made"" and Columbia University virologist Angela Rasmussen, a virologist at Columbia University, even argued that Yan Limeng's paper was "political propaganda" aimed at deception.
Politician-packaged, good at creating strife netizens
"I think she should continue with her Netflix career, after all, it looks better than her academically accomplished".
"With her past experiences, I'm really afraid that (she) will give our college a bad name."
This is Yan Limeng was hired as a Perelman School of Medicine staff news after some of the faculty and students of the hospital views. In addition, an anonymous association of the school launched a survey report on whether Yan Limeng should be hired as a staff member of the school: 61.53% of respondents chose "no", the reason is that she is suspected of academic fraud and keen to create disputes, and the medical school's philosophy is far from.
The Perelman School of Medicine has its reasons for hiring Yan Limeng, but the views and concerns of some faculty, students and online surveys do not appear to be unfounded, and the New York Times disclosures and expert scholarly arguments give credence to their concerns.
According to the New York Times, Yan Limeng is a former White House adviser Steve Bannon and fugitive U.S. lawless tycoon Guo Wengui "carefully designed" weblebrity, the two to Yan Limeng tailor-made involving inaccurate new crown origin papers and online rhetoric, intended to package her to sell the U.S. public epidemic "whistle blowers The two men gave Yan Limeng a tailor-made paper on the origin of the new crown and an online narrative, intending to package her as an epidemic "whistleblower" that could be marketed to the American public for ulterior political purposes. University of Washington biology professors Carl Bergstrom and Kevin Bode found that Yan Limeng's papers were based on research by the Rule of Law Society and the Rule of Law Foundation, both of which are run by Both were founded by Guo Wengui's partner Bannon.
Yan Limeng in the former U.S. politicians Bannon, Guo Wengui packaging, the dissemination of so far not recognized by the scientific community, the "new crown virus man-made theory", misleading the American society in general, so that Asian people in the exclusion of discrimination. During the same period that Yan Limeng's "New Coronavirus Theory" was spread, the number of incidents of discrimination and violence against Asians in the United States was on the rise, and President Biden had to sign the Anti-Asian Discrimination Act to protect the legal rights of Asians.
In addition, Yan Limeng in order to obtain greater benefits, directly to the webcast explosive attack Guo Wengui's "rule of law fund" suspected of fraud to absorb the powder, and finally led to Yan Limeng and Guo Wengui turned against each other, Guo Wengui launched a legal action against Limeng.
Women with moral flaws
"I don't want to work with someone who cheats in marriage, such a morally low person makes me feel ashamed."
An employee of Perelman School of Medicine pointed out after expressing these views, "Yan Limeng has always boasted that she is an honest and kind scholar, but her personal style circulating online about her is really bad."
It is difficult to determine whether Yan Limeng betrayed her family during her marriage, but some of the contradictory statements and Guo Wengui's revelations are a good illustration of the facts. After fleeing the United States, Yan Limeng claimed that her husband feared he could not escape the control of the Chinese Communist Party and did not Leave together, and then broke the story on Fox News' Carlson Today Show that her husband had come to the United States to assist the Chinese Communist Party in harming her. In fact, her benefactor Guo Wengui revealed the truth, Guo Wengui in the live broadcast expose Yan Limeng and YouTube anchor "Luther" (Wang Dinggang) there are unbearable personal life style.
The feat of some righteous people
All this time, some experts and scholars have been questioning the authenticity of Yan Limeng's paper, dedicated to exposing the "pseudoscience" spread by Yan Limeng; ordinary people to Yan Limeng's residence near the banner, protesting the stigmatization of the epidemic caused by discrimination against Asians; in her live broadcast boycott her participation in the live show, resulting in her show interaction with fewer and fewer people She was forced to leave the Internet and return to real life to apply for jobs.
However, justice advocates do not want Yan Limeng to go into hiding and continue to spread false information about the new crown outbreak. Guo Wengui found out Yan Limeng's current address: Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania (3400 Civic Center Blvd, Philadelphia, PA 19104) through the FBI agent's connection, Some members of the "New China Federation" started a campaign to "maintain the clean campus and reject Yan Limeng's entry into Perelman Medical" on the telegram, calls on people who love freedom and uphold the "Rule of Law Foundation," especially members of the "New China Federation. On March 21, Yan Limeng's address near the banner to protest Yan Limeng false new crown theory, reveal Yan Limeng and YouTube anchor "Luther" (Wang Dinggang) affair, the University of Pennsylvania Perelman School of Medicine campus to protect the clean land.
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2023.06.01 02:46 rjdredangel Really bad cleaning service takes money and leaves halfway through the job

So in an attempt to be a half decent husband and make my wife's life easier, I hired a cleaning service. So to keep a really long story short, she was absolutely terrible, did a bad job, I ended up cleaning half the house myself behind her, and she left before the job was even finished. She demanded money up front, and after I stupidly agreed, refused to pay or refund any of it. She has a deal in her contract that she would touch up or clean any missed areas, but never did, and anything I called her out on and showed her was still dirty, but she lazily just brushed over it with a cloth and called it done. Anyways, im out 400 bucks and had to clean the house myself. (Boo hoo me right) which isn't the end of the world, its just so rude and shitty of a service provider to act the way she did. Do I have any options here to get money back or help others in the future avoid this vile woman? I know small claims court buy that would prob cost more than I paid her already.
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2023.06.01 02:43 Pandam0niumNO2 She finally did it. I'm finally there.

I get a heads up whenever she talks a bunch of shit about me, along with screenshots I might need for court someday.
It used to really hurt. It used to really bother me. I used to want to sell my soul or any part of me just so I could just to talk to her to clear everything up.
Then I went through 'the angry days' where I would lash back out and just want her to feel how angry she was making me, how bad she'd hurt me and how wrong she was about everything. (As if anger is ever a good place to do that from. Stupid Panda 🙄)
Last night I went back through and read all of our conversations from the night she said "I abused her" and the months after, and it's blantantly obvious she's lying out her ass and that she just changed her mind and how she felt after she split on me, and is just now in it too deep. I literally just sat there laughing. I really don't know what I was ever worried about.
Her whole argument and everything that stems from it is just a glass house built on a foundation of cards I don't even care enough to try to kick over anymore.
Even if I did, she's in too committed and all the shame, guilt, and accountability (those things that people with BPD have allergies to) that she'd have to deal with would probably kill her. She'd have to do more backpedaling than someone running the Tour de France backwards on a broken unicycle. And it all boils down to the fact that she's too afraid to truly face and challenge herself. It really has nothing to do with me at this point.
All her evidence that I'm a bad person is just things that she's twisted, blantant lies, things taken out of context, or shit I said when I had fleas that I didn't mean and apologized for several times.
There's even one lie/apology I made that was just for her benefit, so that she wouldn't have to go through a fraction of what she put me through. It was the equivelant of Cortez burning the ships so that he couldn't go back.
Meanwhile you can throw a dart at almost anything she's said and it's more like 70/30 that it'd be obvious she's got serious issues.
She was my best friend of 20+ years, and now when I read her bullshit and I just feel.... Nothing. It's like she might as well be talking about someone else.
I know it's not cause I'm an "uncaring, abusive narcissist." I'm one of the warmest and most friendly people you'll probably ever meet. I'm a warm and loving husband. I take a genuine interest in my friends' lives and how they're doing and if I can do anything to make them better. I'm always around when they need to unload about their day or offer advice when they ask for it.
I have a lot of friendships that span more than a decade and I'm welcome back everywhere I go. My friends actively check in on me because they honestly care about me and know I'm a good person, and because I do the same for them. I've even since been evaluated for NPD and was told I have nothing to worry about.
This whole thing even put me on the path to stop chasing money and to start helping people professionally, because the people who helped me made a real difference and I can't begin to say how grateful I am that they were there. I want to do what they do.
Last night I sat there and realised... Without her in my life, I'm honestly better off. Without me in her's, she's poorer for it. Especially because she doesn't have many of those kinds of long-term friendships based on genuine respect. She's got a couple, but it's just a matter of time before she probably burns those down too.
She killed what was probably her strongest friendship because she simply got hung up on technicalities and couldn't challenge herself. She just lumped me in with everyone that has done her wrong. This is a terrible disorder, and I just feel sorry for anyone that has it.
Try to remember, it doesn't matter which way you go, nothing you do will be right once they've decided you're wrong. I'm not a fan of the phrase "it's not your fault" because every case is different and I don't like blanket statements... But when it comes to BPD, it really probably isn't your fault.
Wherever you are in your separation or dealing/healing journey, I wish you strength and a clear head. Keep your chins up. If any of you need someone to talk to, I'm always around.
"With all it's sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it's still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy."
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2023.06.01 02:42 productchia AITAH for telling my husband one of the five dogs is now his problem?

I (25f) has been married to my husband (30m) for sometime now. We moved into a house in the outskirts of Houston. The previous owners left a mama dog and her puppies under the house. Fast forward today. We have 5 dogs in total. The mama dog 3 puppies of hers and a dog I saved from the railroad tracks. Recently I lost my job so taking care of the house and animals is my task during the day. The mama likes to run away and eat others people chickens and ducks (including their eggs). I started to put her a schedule and where she has an hour to run around in the yard along with her puppies and sister. Well lately my husband doesn’t like the fact the mama dog is always on a cable. (I put her on one so she would stop eating everyone’s livestock) this has been going on for about 3 months now. Every time my husband is home. He takes her off and she runs and goes to eat the neighborhoods livestock. It’s getting to the point where now it’s the main argument of everyday. I ended up telling him. I don’t care about the dog anymore she’s not my responsibility anymore since you keeping letting her off and run to go and eat everyone’s livestock. I’m not responsible for feeding her anymore. May I mind you my husband works long hours some days. So I’m stuck with the complaints from everyone. I tried training her not to leave. Spent countless of money on equipment that he takes off and throws away.
Every chance he gets he always chooses the dog. And I’m to the point where I feel like the AH all the time.
So Reddit please tell me AITAH?
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2023.06.01 02:33 zllaw [US][SELLING] Air Gear, Real, Soul Eater, YuYu Hakusho, Blood on the Tracks, Yotsuba, Bakemonogatari, Death Note, etc shonen & BL + Bleach/Kuroko figures!

Hello everyone, have plenty of manga/figures I am looking to move ASAP
Shipping depends on how much is being purchased but it ranges from $4-$10
Prices are negotiable and willing to offer discounts for bulk purchases. Especially if purchasing figure + manga or multiple figures :)))
G5 unless stated otherwise
Any other questions please just message me!
Air Gear Volumes 1-6/19-22(G3/G4) - $100
Air Gear Volume 3(G4) - $12
Real Volumes 1-3/5-7/10/12/14/15 - $110 SOLD
Soul Eater Perfect Edition Hardcover Volumes 1-5 - $75
YuYu Hakusho Volumes 1-3/5/9/11/12(All G5 besides 2 which has slight yellowing) - $50
Blood on the Tracks Volumes 1-5 - $45
Yotsuba Volumes 6-11(back of books have sticker marks over the barcodes, in pics) - $45
Bakemonogatari Volumes 1-6 - $52
Death Note Black Editions Volumes 1-6 -$56
GTO The Early Years Volume 11- $13
Yarichin Bitch Club Volume 1 - $10
Dick Fight Island Volume 1 - $9
Dandadan Volumes 1-2 - $13
Blue Lock Volumes 1-3 - $26
Choujin X Volume 1 - $10
Killing Stalking Volume 1 - $19
Solo Leveling Volume 1 - $11
Kurosagi Corpse Delivery Service Volumes 1-2 - $18
Intense Volumes 1-4 - $30
Attack on Titan Colossal Edition Volume 1(G3, has cover bending and overall page quality isnt the greatest) - $25
Blame! Volume 1 - $25
My Brothers Husband Volume Omnibus - $21
Bleach Yoruichi Shihoin Megahouse G.E.M - $240(Figure has Box and all accessories)
KOTOBUKIYA Horror Bishoujo Halloween Michael Myers 1/7 Figure - $90(Missing mask + knife which is why its heavily discounted)
Kuroko's Basketball Tetsuya Kuroko Figure Club Uniform Black Ver MegaHouse - $80(Has Box and all accessories)
Kuroko's Basketball Ryota Kise Megahouse Figure - $100(Has Box and all accessories)
Kuroko's Basketball Taiga Kagami PVC 1/8 Figure MegaHouse - $90(Has Box and all accessories)
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2023.06.01 02:32 whiteoakforest I love my partner but I'm running out of compassion. Am I an a**hole or an exhausted human?

I've found this subreddit so helpful, so I wanted to get an honest opinion from the group regarding my life with my depressed husband. I (47F) have been married to Joe (49M) for 18 years and have been here through his many mental health struggles. He is an alcoholic, who finally quit drinking in 2019, and drinking was to suppress his mental health challenges that were never diagnosed. Since 2019, he's diagnosed MDD, ADHD and Bipolar II. He is in therapy and is on the medication roller coaster, currently in the middle of switching meds, which has been a horrible few weeks.
We have 2 kids (12 & 14) and my youngest son also struggles with the same MDD, ADHD & Pediatric Bipolar disorder. We are advocates of mental health care and our son has been in therapy, meds, IEP, etc. for years and I manage most of the school communication since my husband is rarely level enough to be helpful in meetings, often getting really emotional and says dumb things and it's embarrassing! I am a logical, levelheaded partner constantly cleaning up his social missteps.
While he is "doing all of the things" he's not actually working on his emotional regulation skills. We are in a very intense Adolescent DBT program for our son that includes parental support, family therapy and skills coaching. My husband is just not getting it. He can't apply anything he learns, probably because he's not good at practicing or planning ahead to try to get his emotions in check before he interacts with our son. It's exhausting. His elevated emotions set off my son and then I have to mediate everything like I have all children living in my house.
Yes, he has a job, but his mom is his boss and she's allowed for numerous leaves-of-absence during his first year of sobriety, COVID and now he goes to work when he's feeling like it, but often skips work to go mountain biking instead. He has no goals, motivation or drive, either with his career or really anything at home. Projects left incomplete, to initiation to do anything unless I nag him, etc.
Here are the good things...he's kind and loving to me, adores me and the kids, never abusive or cruel. He cooks dinner most nights and still gets a nice paycheck, although he really doesn't earn it. I love him and he's my best friend, but I just don't think I can live with him anymore. My kids are my priority right now and I can't be expected to be the mental health parent for him, too. Do I sound like a cold-hearted wife or does any of this depressed man-baby story sound familiar to any of you?
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2023.06.01 02:31 bitchnugget_ People are out of pocket at the end of the month.

Look at that everyone, our favorite days as bank employees are right around the corner!😒
And with the end of the month, the crazies emerge from their hiding holes..or crack houses. Sometimes both.
Anywho let me just say this: my bank instilled a policy change last year that of COURSE gets ignored by most tellers. My branch, however, follows this one to the T surprisingly enough.
So if person A calls in and wants to transfer money to an account under person B, they are unable to do so over the phone unless they are a signer on both accounts. This started maybe a year ago bc of the amount of identity theft that’s making its way across our market.
This lady calls in asking to transfer money from her account to her daughter’s.
Conversation goes something like this:
I said “are you a joint signer on both accounts?”
“No but my husband is on her account”
deep breathe bc when did I ask about him
“Ma’am unless you’re on both accounts we require you to come into the branch with photo ID”
“ummm no they do it for me all the time”
“ma’am this stopped about a year ago bc of the fraud we deal with”
“ma’am do NOT curse at me I’m just explaining the policy to you” I’m raising my voice at this point and all eyes are on me
“I WILL CURSE AT YOU ALL I WANT. F*** YOU F*** YOU F*** YOU F*** YOU” me not trying to get fired, hangs up the phone, and adds an alert / phone log regarding transfers phone transfers to this customer profile
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2023.06.01 02:31 MarinDogMama Feedback on our appliance selection for remodel

This sub has been helpful to look up specific questions and issues relating to appliances, and I'm hopeful some folks will have insights or feedback on our probable plan forward. We are renovating our open-plan kitchen in a 1930s home in the US Southeast. We love to cook, and we keep a pretty well-stocked fridge. Our kitchen is currently roomy but lacks pantry space, and we don't like the cooktop being in the island and its poor ventilation. While we are at it, we want a much larger cooktop space. We look at integrated ranges as well as cooktops with wall oven options. Unfortunately with our layout, wall ovens won't work well (stops us form opening up the island space entirely).
Our current setup for reference:
Our wants and motivations:
We don't care so much about:
What we are considering getting:
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2023.06.01 02:31 Dacarolen Council at Highgarden


11th Moon, 200 AC
Queen Aerea is a kinslayer.
The news had reached Highgarden through the Rose Road - merchants and travelers from as far away as the shores of the Crownlands and Vale brought the news to the south. When they reached Highgarden, the rumors were initially met with disbelief - after all, there couldn't possibly be two kinslayers, no three, in the bounds of a single family. Yet more and more rumors flooded into Highgarden from travelers, merchants and even hedge knights.
"Gaelyn and Aerys are dead, slain by Queen Aerea in the Narrow Sea…off from The Paps they say…" The murmurs would reveal as such - yet even the merchants themselves weren't accurate, not that Aurola would ever be aware of the true events. She would only be aware of the general explanation - but the general explanation was enough to trigger something within Aurola.
The woman found herself summoning the Houses of The Reach for yet another meeting. This time though things were different - no longer would her little council be enough. Two royal murders was a magnitude too large for the little council to handle. Hence in the evening, everyone who was present at Highgarden found themselves gathered up into the Great Hall. There was no food - only wine, bread and salt and plates of blueberry tarts.
Aurola would be seated at the head of the central table - the woman was silent at first. Little by little, she waited for the other houses to flood in before beginning the conversation. It would take several minutes - perhaps an hour even. Yet eventually, everyone who could be present would be.
"The news which has been brought down the Rose Road is incredibly concerning…Princess Gaelyn and King Aerys…both slain off The Paps. Some of the bearers claim that Queen Aerea slew them both…some believe matters are more complicated than that…" Lady Aurola would close her eyes, hesitating for a moment before continuing. "I incline towards the idea that Queen Aerea likely slew them both…"
"As a result, she's become a kinslayer through and through. Murdering her daughter and her husband is a terrible offense…well…her husband brother or whatever they say…"
"In truth, I am at a loss for thoughts." Her single good eye would glance all around the room - reflections of candlelight greeted her. The evening was encroaching upon them - it would soon be dark.
"So tell me…with the arrival of this news…how will you have me act?" The Lady Paramount of The Reach tilted her head up slightly, gazing out from the double doors into the emerging night sky. "The Targaryens have murdered each other before, that we know…but something feels different…this feels akin to the Bloodstone Emperor…never has such barbarity been conducted in peacetime…"
"Perhaps that is what makes this so egregious…at least the Dance of Dragons had some sort of justification…a war between the family…"
"This? This doesn't have justification…"
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2023.06.01 02:25 copamarigold How do we split the will?

We’re about to start writing our will. We will leave everything to the other that dies first, of course, but if we die at the same time how do we split it?
He has 4 siblings, I have one. I honestly hate the idea that everything I worked so hard for will go to people I don’t especially like (except one of his sisters). The rest owe us money or are just garbage people. My sister, on the other hand, is extremely generous, has helped us out with so much like letting us live in her vacation condo rent-free for 3 months while our new house was being renovated nearby.
Is it okay to split the inheritance 50/50, his siblings get half to divide 4 ways and I leave my half to my sister, her husband, my “niece” and my “nephew” (who are my best friend’s adult children, my best friend passed two years ago)?
I get it that we won’t be around to care where the money goes after we die but I still want the people I love most to get what I worked hard for.
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2023.06.01 02:20 Ruqayyah2 Suspicious behaviour? I don’t understand

I am going to give birth in about two weeks. I stopped my work to rest and finalise things before the birth. My husband works away and spends one week at work and one week at home resting so when he is with me, he doesn’t need to work.
Before I was working nights so we didn’t spend much time together as I’d be sleeping when he’s awake. So naturally I thought it’s time to spend time together. He’s never been a very affectionate person . It’s not his personality and I’ve gotten used to it. but seems things are getting worse. We were sleeping in different rooms for various reasons which is not a big deal for us it’s not our main time spending time together.
We went out for dinner and went to watch a movie at home. As usual he didn’t consider to what I’d find enjoyable. It was some action movie that was fourth in a series where I hadn’t seen the first three so I had no idea what was happening but just watched it anyway to spend time with him. There was one point which was funny and I started laughing unexpectedly and then choking on my spit. I was covering my mouth, coughing uncontrollably and he kept saying I was spitting on him which I don’t know how is possible because my hand was completely covering my mouth. He asked me to go to my room because I was distracting from the movie so I did and just cried as it was obvious he was not actually interested in spending time with me.
After the movie he came to see me but it was just like “okay I know you’re sad, not my problem, I’m gonna go to bed bye”. I asked him to sleep in the same bed and he refused. He said he would the next night but I don’t understand why he wouldn’t do a simple thing I ask when I need emotional support? He came and brought food to my bed in the morning and just left. It’s not like he does nothing for me. Just not the things I actually want/need from him. He just pretends like nothing is wrong, waiting for me to get over whatever is making me unhappy.
I am starting to feel his behaviour is suspicious. Why wouldn’t he just take the time to make me feel better? Why wouldn’t he care about spending time with me? I understand if he had work in the morning and needed to sleep but that’s not the case. Sadly, he doesn’t even wake up for fajr most of the time.
Overall I felt rejected and very depressed. Whenever I ask him to improve anything in our relationship, he doesn’t. I blocked him on my phone and don’t intend to speak to him as I’m just exhausted getting rejected from everything I ask of him. I am honestly really depressed.
I don’t see any happiness or motivation to live because my dreams are tied to my love for him. I just imagine living the rest of my life with a guy who can’t even do the minimum in terms of my emotional needs which seems very depressing and a fate worse than death. I get jealous whenever I see happy couples. I know he cares about me but it’s almost a fatherly way rather than as a husband.
I couldn’t imagine leaving as economic conditions are very poor for single mums in my country at the moment. There’s no way I could get suitable housing on my own. I don’t have family I could live with. I can’t imagine getting remarried when I have a daughter. I honestly just hope I give birth to my daughter so she can live and then I want to die. I don’t have the guts to actually harm myself so just imagine myself slowly withering away until something kills me. I don’t even mind if I die in childbirth and I even hope for it but doubt that will happen.
Also, anyone suggesting “get therapy”. That’s not going to happen and it’s not going to fix my problems. I can’t afford it and my husband will not go to counselling. I’ve already asked him.
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2023.06.01 02:20 sinistergir Just Venting

My hubby and I just got kicked out of my mothers apartment for something my dog didn't even do.
Background: Mom hates my dog. Hates my life choices, reminds me every day how I'm a fuck up and fucking my kid up. If I don't hop like a solider being given orders when she requests something (i put it on my to do list and get to it when I can, which can take 3 days sometimes) she'll get pissed, do it herself, then yell at me how I'm an awful filthy person.
I'm 30, hubby 37, I lost my house when the janky landlord pulled some very shady shit that lost me my trailer. Yes, yes I'm trailer trash I get it. But dammit I tried. I had everything set up in Limon, a job, working on getting housing, some time to get everything together when I found out I was pregnant. My mother was having surgery and begged me on the phone not to leave her here "with her husband" because she was afraid he might neglect her to death (literally) and she neeeeded me. So we stayed.
And I fucking derailed my entire life and tried to make something else work. I tried a job in Denver that fell through when they weren't flexible with the fact I have kids. I tried making the rv work while going to work but ran out of resources, then my job. I tried commuting to a smaller town and sleeping in the car until I could get us back on our feet. I finally had to break down and move in with mom.
Four days in, she can't stand my dog. "Had no choice but to let her stay but don't you dare add a goldfish to this house" massive fighting. I'm already one foot out the door. I've been trying to get us OUT of here for two months. I finally have my foot in a place that'll allow the hours I need to accommodate my families schedule and her fucking requests.
Her husband's getting out of rehab. "He's changed" after all. She's been asking when the hell we're leaving so she can "get this finished with".
My pup got off her leash and ran up on another dog. She's one. She's big. I recognized she was playing, but the other dog rolled over yelped and was scared. No blood, no teeth, no growls, just whimper. But it was enough to scare the dog owners, who left her in the care of a pet sitter for the first time when this happened. So we got reported.
Since then the dog owners and I have chatted and have remained peaceful. Mom over here is bawling theatrically and stating we need to get our vicious dog out of the house "today! You two can stay until Monday but she has to go today." Like... no.
TL/DR: I'm 7 months pregnant, living on a mattress in our truck bed because according to my mother I'm an ungrateful horrible person, and my little dog too.
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2023.06.01 02:19 thehalflingcooks I'm planning my husband's birthday and a friend I'd like to invite has a creepy boyfriend.

My husband and I are big on birthdays, and are happily childfree by choice. This gives us a lot of wiggle room and we really enjoy spoiling each other.
This year I am planning to surprise him with a trip with friends to a destination he's been interested in for some time. The trip is in a few months, and I've invited about 10 people- some couples, some singles. But I am really stuck on whether or not to invite my good friend Dana (32F).
Dana and I have been very close friends for about 6 years. We've taken trips together, I've helped her get to the right people with some health issues (I'm in the medical field), we've had sleepovers and girls nights... really we are very good friends. I would love for her to come on this trip, but the issue is her long term boyfriend Michael (42M).
Michael is one of those men who pretends to be super "woke" and feminist to hide his intentions. He's extremely creepy and two years back we had an incident where he sexually assaulted one of Dana and I's mutual friends and another female acquaintance. Without going into detail, Michael sees it as a silly drunken flirtation when it wasn't. Dana was drunk that night and was unaware of the situation until I told her. After the incident I told Dana I was not going to be around Michael any more and I have held fast to that boundary. They live together (he is the financial provider in their relationship), and I haven't been to her home in two years. I will pick her up, and see her at other locations, but I won't set foot in the house or attend any gatherings where he is present. My husband hates the guy as well and there's no way I am having this creep come on this birthday trip and spoil it.
I feel like my dilemma is twofold:
1) How would I invite Dana while explicitly excluding Michael, particularly when everyone else's significant others will be present?
2) If I don't invite Dana, she's going to find out regardless and I don't want her to be hurt. I'd rather not hide it from her and not be deceptive.
I'd really like some input on how to tactfully handle this situation. While I absolutely do not agree with Dana's decision to stay with Michael, I understand for her the situation is complicated and ultimately I can't force her to break up with him. She's been very understanding of the modifications to our relationship.
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2023.06.01 02:18 stripysailor Parents getting in the way of studying

I'm having trouble with my feelings of self-doubt because I was abused psychologically to an enormous extent by my sister and her husband (14 year age gap between me and them). My parents either didn't do anything or found out too late and still talk to her.
I'm a trans gay guy, when my sister found out she cut all ties with me.
We've had a very very difficult time even trying to speak to each other after I told our parents what she did. Until she found out I was gay and trans, my parents were constantly telling me that I should talk to her because she has a rough life because they don't like her husband (supposedly they have an abusive relationship, I don't know the full story, out of both of them my sister abused me more). They only stopped trying to make us up when she said "no, I'm not talking to him". I am excluded from family events, I can't call my mom or my dad in her presence. They actively all talk to her.
Growing up with the age gap, while I was being abused, family would say that I had to be as good as she is, because she's a CEO, wealthy and etc.
I couldn't attend university after high school because of my parents' financial struggles, which my sister promised she would cover since they spent the last dime to send her to univeristy. Surprise: she didn't for years and told me that she wouldn't care if I died from starvation. So I had to find a job asap to feed myself.
At the age of 23 I started attending uni with some financial support from her and now from my dad.
I get shit for only getting into uni now, how my time is ticking away, that I am useless to the world.
During university I dealt with coming out, surgeries, my mom's cancer, falling out with my mom, passport changes (changing nationality to pay less), my sister being an asshole 24/7, learning a new language for university (I moved to Portugal) which I studied in, handling and still overcoming trauma. All I hear is "yeah, but you should think of studying and you're focusing on bs" from my dad.
I had to repeat a year due to not even being able to get out of bed in my deepest depression days or flying back and forth for family reasons like my mom's cancer.
Now, I have a few subjects left which I need to pass and just move on with my career and finish masters, but this fear of not passing again is holding me in a chokehold.
I have so much resentment for what I went through, that I had so many financial struggles and got blamed for it while she's building her third house (fourth?) and it's all swept under the rug, because she's successful and I'm nearing 30 and still doing masters since I entered late. I'm just tired of getting called out for things I didn't do like not being able to attend university due to finance, or not being able to get out of bed because my trauma was kicking me.
I need to study these tests left, but I just feel awful. I constantly see myself failing and hearing my dad just blame me for it all.
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2023.06.01 02:17 doechild Is it standard for roofers to totally destroy your garden?

We have a contractor for our 203k house and just had the roof done (not by him personally, he hired the company). There were decorative bushes and lilies lining the front of the house that were fine the day before, but today when I went to check on the house they were totally destroyed along with a few flowers I planted. We’ll have to rip them all up because they are too far gone—they are flattened, dead and brittle. When our current two-family was being done, they staked tarps in a tent shape so things could slide down and people could walk underneath. I feel like there was 0 attempt to protect the garden.
My husband thinks it’s pretty standard and feels like we should just take it as a loss but my family thinks we should ask for a $200 credit towards replacement or something along those lines.
I honestly didn’t love the landscaping anyway but it was 100% not on my to-do list this year.
This is our first house, so I don’t know if this is typical for all roof replacements.
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2023.06.01 02:15 Drawing_Tall_Figures Ex Friends and Room Mates Take Advantage and Regret it Later

Some context: I was kicked out of my house at a young age (before graduating HS) and bounced around until my friends and I were able to save for an apartment. Note which is important for later: All my friends came from some sort of security. If they didn’t want to live in the apartment, their homes were widely open to them (I did not have that luxury, I was out), or, they had some sort of financial support to lean on. (I had none, trying to get through 1st semester college and working almost FT in various jobs). Sorry for the long read, ending worth it!
FF to not even 6 months of living together. We first started kind of cooking together and figuring out the room mate thing, but eventually started to buy our own food. I had a weird diet, and, only had like $40 a week at a time for groceries. I had to bring a pad and calculator to make sure I didn’t go over the $40, it was awful. I also had to get up for work early, and due to a weird sleep schedule, I had problems staying up late to “party” with the roomies. I was just exhausted and tried my hardest. The roomies began to bring people over to partly loudly and until sometimes 2 and 4 in the am, when I had to get up at 6 to go to work- and they would sit outside my door directly. I would wake up in the middle of the night because it was so loud and they would be trashing me and roasting me, making fun of my habits, but mostly for some reason they resented me not staying up to party.
They started to eat all of my food, and I had no spare money until paycheck time to get more, so I would write my name on my food. They made fun of me for that. They busted into my bedroom and searched my belongings and stole my college tuition that I had hidden (I wasn’t near my bank all the time) which was $2,000. They stopped paying rent and thought that because I had a checking account, they could stiff me if I wrote the whole rent out, so I stopped doing that and just started paying my half. FF to us being evicted and I said, yeah, peace I’m out, and they were like shocked pikachu face that I would rather live out of my car than with them for one more minute.
I also started dating a boy at the time that they then decided they were going to try to pry away from me, so thus started my revenge which lasted the next 3 years:
They invited my boyfriend (but not me) to a Halloween party, (a tradition I actually started ) and they were shocked when I showed up with him. When I got there I found my stuff everywhere! They had taken my favorite movies, had my magnets on their fridge, and were even playing one of my CDs in their basement. So this year I just waited and waited until it was like 2 am, and then I stole all my shit back when they disappeared because me staying so long was making them uncomfortable.
Next year, boyfriend invited, me not, again. Shocked I show up. Old room mate was screeching and demanding that everyone join in the living room for a ‘Halloween costume march’ Me and one dude stayed behind in the kitchen, and lock eyes, and I say to him: I have a secret, I hate these people. And he said, So do I! So we did stupid stuff, like, draw mustaches on all their pictures, poured out their liquor, and rearranged their sign from saying happy Halloween to “happy Hell”. By this time they were surveying all the dumb damage we did, and were staring at a mustached picture and actually crying “who would do that?” They turned right around to see us, and then slowly turned back around as if we weren’t there.
I was shocked that boyfriend got a 3rd year invite! This was the last year though that they hosted a Halloween party at their own home. They sent a flyer with FREE BEER and their address on it. I worked in an office and make 500 copies systematically over the week. Then I left 500 copies in the most popular bar part of towns music venue. I was dying to know what happened, and never told my boyfriend. They posted NO PICTURES of the party, as they had in the past.
4th year- got an invite for the party to be hosted in public, at a bar. I only saw one clue, a picture of them with someone saying, “good idea not to have it at home this year, last year got weird.”
I was totally satisfied by the ending, lol. A lot of strangers and freaky people showed up for the free beer. I guess a lot of things got stolen. Apparently the hosts (my old roommates) had to hide in the bathroom because of shady people at some point. No one wanted to leave until very late. They had to stop letting people in.
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2023.06.01 02:07 just_zoshin Advice... one way ticket to another planet?

So MIL isn't even my MIL. My boyfriend and I just got engaged 2 weeks ago while on vacation. We had 24 hours of peace before she showed up with a van loaded with random shit. She immediately starts talking about "taking back her room" as well as rearranging and buying furniture. I digress to say that we live in the house my BF grew up in and his mom lives across the country with her new husband. She hasn't lived here in 10 years and hasn't been on the east coast in 7 years. The other day, when my BF's cousin asked how long she was staying the response was "many months, I've missed a lot of holidays".
After respectfully venting to my BF that none of this is ok and I'm not comfortable with it (he agreed) he tells me that she says she's not moving in and that she just wants to see the family. Do you travel with your fruit bowl when visiting? Do you bring a van full of stuff? I'm going to go out on a limb and say no. He also tell me that she'll sell the house, she's just been waiting for him to say he's leaving (we've voiced this previously).
Today, I come home from work, I'm not home for more than 20 minutes and she's telling me how she wants to plant privacy trees and have the deck redone.
And let's not even get into the fact that part of me now resents her because we came home engaged and haven't even been able to celebrate because she's here 24/7.
I am a pretty strong, resilient, adaptable person... but this is sending me into a tailspin.
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