Hello friends, So today I (19)f have come to a realization. I could easily make my father’s (42)m life a living hell if I could try. So a little back story. I am the eldest of my fathers 3 daughters. So when I was younger my father was terrible he physically abused me for years until one night he Sexually Assaulted me. At 11 years old my whole life was turned in a living hell, I was scared and the physical abuse never stopped until at 15 my father dropped me off at school screaming at me that I was worthless and if I couldn’t act right to not come back. and that is what I did. He continued with verbal abuse over text and call, telling me how worthless I was and how I am treating him terribly. Fast forward a few years at this point my parents had been well divorced for years. Although, we were still going through a custody battle with my sisters. To make a long story short, this court was in a town with maybe 200 people this being said things were kind of janky here. So the case is being held the bring a lawyer to talk to me about my parents and what has happened at this point I hadn’t told anyone I had been SA’d by my father. He asked me a few questions and didn’t write any of my answers down. the court hearing went on and I had confessed to my mother what my father had done years ago, due to the stress of the situation and the build ups of ptsd I had been having at the time. We went through a therapist and even spoke to a social worker about how I was SA’d all for this to be thrown in the thrash and told since my father was intoxicated and it was so long ago they couldn’t do anything. All the pain relived for nothing. I know this is all over the place but stay with me. Fast forward to our last hearing the court did not let me speak, the court did not hear any of my mother family but did hear my fathers. The court ruled that my father could keep my sisters and gave my mother supervised visits because my younger sister and father’s family that my mom manipulated me in to lying about the abuse I endured all of my childhood. While my younger sisters had also endured his abuse and his family had seen it. I haven’t seen my sisters in 2 years. I haven’t spoke to them either I have no clue what has happened to them. This being said, Nothing can be legally solved now every thing has been “resolved” via court. I want to take revenge, I have a throw away account I felt exposing him through could work. But I need legal an down right evil revenge on the man who took everything light in my life away who has made me a trainwreck. I have worked on my self mentally to finally feel relief from what happened and I have healed but I feel deep down I can’t full heal until he feels sadness like did, anger like i did. Thank you reddit friends in advance!

So my grandfather has passed away recently and his funeral will be coming up in a few weeks.
I have two daughters 1 and 3. I have tried explaining to my 3 yo in a way she could understand but being so small I don’t think she really understands.
They were very important to him he used to tell people I have two great great-granddaughters but being so small especially with family who are going to be upset including me I worry it will be too much for them and for me and rest of the family if they start getting restless or wanting to play, screech or shout etc and just act like very small children which they are . Not their fault just wrong situation for them to be in.
I am thinking maybe they can come to the wake after though. My husband can say goodbye with the girls then leave while I stay for the full service etc then they meet us later for the wake though.
My husband thinks they should be part of the funeral though to teach them about death and how we should process it etc. I’m just not convinced because they’re so small and I don’t want added stress not just for me who will be visibly upset but also for other family members too especially my grandma who is devastated.
What are your thoughts/experience please? Open to other suggestions too.
Thank you
Edit: There will be other children there youngest will be 6 years old excluding the girls. But even a 6 year old will have a better grasp than 3. I should also note that my 3 yo has a slight delay with regards to processing information and speech.

I (21F) don't feel the same butterflies about my (21M) fiancé anymore. We have been together for almost about 2 and a half years. We got pregnant unexpectedly and we absolutely adore our daughter. But ever since having her things don't really feel the same. The butterflies I used to get when we would get some alone time just don't feel the same anymore. I love him to no end I want to spend my life with him. I know he feels the same as he has told me multiple times. I just want the feeling back tho. I miss feeling giddy around him. I don't regret having my daughter at all but sometimes I wonder if having a kid so early killed our relationship. We try going on dates, and having plenty alone time and it always feels amazing to just be me and him. Some people tell me it’s normal to lose that feeling but I don’t think that’s really true. I feel more like his friend than I do his fiancé. What can I do to help fix my relationship before it fails.

I need your help guys. I'm usually very professional and work in a field with high ranking people. I've been working here for a year and some change and have been told my my immediate report that my performance is much better than the guy who i replaced(I'll call the guy I replaced Dylan) But we both report to a high ranking person who i will call John for the purposes of this question.
Anyway... In the months leading up to the guy I replaced being let go i noticed that John has a habit of trying to humiliate or making people look like a fool in front of the whole team by asking absurd questions and then throwing little fits when he doesn't get the right answer back. I watched him do this to Dylan in front of everyone before and Dylan just sat there and took it.
John had never done this to me, until a few days ago when he started asking me absurd questions which were outside the scope of my presentation and which my immediate report did not tell me to prepare for. John kept asking really technical questions and trying to put me under pressure by saying 'think about it now' and when i said I didn't know he would turn to the team and say that we all need to know our job (basically saying i don't know what I'm talking about) and he just kept doing this slide after slide. And 40 min into my presentation i noticed that it was HE who had spent the majority of the time talking.
Anyway this kept going but I felt like he was trying to make a fool out of me in front of everyone. My job is to have a broad understanding of the topic but he kept asking questions that would be more appropriate for an engineer to answer. Anyway .... Everytime I would say that I didn't know exactly he would roll his eyes and keep turning towards the team and spout out stuff as if he was schooling us.
This kept going and I eventually kind of lost my cool because it was obvious he was trying to destroy my credibility in front of everyone. The last thing we said was "you know what I don't know" but I will admit it had a slight tone.
After that happened he said "I've had enough" and then he slapped his pen into the printout i had given him and slapped his book on the table and turned towards my immediate report and said "if you can't find someone who does know then find someone who does" which i took as a threat to fire me / him trying to hold my job over my head. Then he got up and walked back to his office. About an hour later i was told to telework from home for the next few days.
I understand i lost my patience but I don't feel like his behavior is appropriate and I'm not going to let him treat me like he did Dylan. I honestly feel like he tries to make a fool out of people during their presentations... Like he gets a kick out of it.
What should I do?

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Ja’vail woke up with a yawn, her eyes squinting in the evening light. Her room was positioned in the castle on the west side, to ensure that Tor’s sun would wake her up for her duties. It was a purpose that it served with perfection, despite the fact that she really would have liked to sleep for a few more minutes.
However, her duty could not be delayed. It was her power that served as the linchpin to Tor’s spell, and she would fulfill her duty to ensure her Diarchy’s, and her world’s, future. With a grunt of exertion, Queen Ja’vail rose from her bed, stretched out her wings, and moved to the balcony before picking up her robe. As soon as she was somewhat decent, the Queen of the Night then opened her wings, looked to the skies, and began channeling her power into the spellform that had been weaved between the planet and its moon, renewing the bonds that connected them, and ensuring the delicate balance between her magic and her husband’s would not come undone.
She performed this ritual twice a day, every day, to ensure the spell’s continued existence. In the past few months she had performed it well before Tor had performed his own renewal, and had had to go remind the foolish drake to not only perform his duties, but to hurry up and get his tail to bed. Without her efforts, and her constant reminder to the king, the entire thing would come undone, ensuring their planet’s rapid descent into division once again.
Without the two dakri turning the planet, the two sides would either become too hot or too cold to sustain life, with the twilight between them ruled by monsters birthed from the nightmares of the oppressed.
It was with some surprise, then, that as she poured her soul into this undertaking, she could feel the thrum of her husband’s power clear in her mind, letting her know that Tor had already renewed his half of the spell for the night.
He really did need that sleep, she thought, giving a self-satisfied nod towards the setting sun before turning back towards her private chamber. She still had much to prepare for her night; even with the most pressing matter out of the way, she still expected a full schedule. Her court wasn’t especially busy, as the dakri found the night to be the best time to sleep and prepare for the next day.
That was besides the point, though, as her duties rarely involved overseeing the day-to-day rule. Rather, her task was to patrol the ǣther, hunt the nightmares that plagued her people, and to do her best to heal the source of those nightmares.
This was especially important now that she had cleared the Forest of Yith and had located the source of that particularly violent nest. It was best to keep those nightmares from returning, and for this cause she was going to attempt to enter the survivor’s dreams again. She doubted she would have as much success this time as she had last time, simply because almost drowning had weakened the creature’s defenses significantly. However, she had faith that she would at least be able to soothe the visitor’s dreams, and possibly gain a little more information on how he thought.
At the very least, she’d settle for a name. She couldn’t just keep calling it ‘the creature’ or ‘the survivor,’ as those ‘names’ grew heavy on the tongue, and wore down her patience. A name would also help the visit she had planned go a lot smoother, and would hopefully help them as they tried to convince him to come to the castle with them.
Once Ja’vail was dressed, she left the comforts of her room and made her way to her husband’s study. As she expected, he was still there, his desk still quite messy, a combination of his daily paperwork and the reports of the crashed alien spaceship forming the majority of the clutter.
Much to Ja’vail’s surprise, however, Tor wasn’t at his desk. Instead, the drake was standing at his window, looking out over the countryside and the eerie sunset before him, a reminder of the twilight that his people had escaped. In his hand he held a memory crystal, its red glow plainly visible in the slowly darkening room.
“Tor, are you alright?” the queen asked as she approached her husband.
Tor turned to look at her, surprise on his face. “Oh, I am well enough, I suppose…” he said, clearly still lost in thought. The king then looked down at the memory crystal in his hand, his brows furrowing in displeasure. “I have just received some… unsettling news. I was actually waiting for your arrival before deciding on anything.”
Ja’vail took a few more steps, her eyes locked on her husband's diminutive form. “What happened?”
Tor looked at her, then back at the stone. “It isn't easy to say this, but… we may have to kill the visitor.”
Ja’vail felt like her stomach had turned to ice. “Kill? Tor, what madness are you spouting? What crime could he have possibly committed while I was asleep to earn him a death sentence?”
Tor looked at his wife, pain in his eyes. “Nothing, dear. He’s completely innocent. That is beside the point, however.”
“Then tell me, what madness has overtaken you that you would murder an innocent?” Ja’vail demanded, her tone brooking no argument. “Or what monster are you, to have taken the place of my Tor? I must say, you have the likeness down, but your impression of his mannerisms leave much to be desired.”
Tor let out a mirthless laugh at that. “No monster or madness, my dark princess. Just a visit from an old friend…” he sighed again, before turning and holding out the crystal for Ja’vail to take. “Lady Siv paid both me and the survivor a visit today. She left me this, as well as a decision to make.”
Ja’vail looked at the crystal, before staring back at her husband, a dubious expression on her face. "And she told you to kill him? I do not remember her being so heartless.”
“And you would remember correctly. She was nearly in tears when I met her, though she did well in hiding them,” Tor said, before approaching his wife. He gently took her hand, and placed the crystal in her palm. “When she saw the visitor, she also looked into his future. This is what she saw. Please, do not force me to bear this knowledge alone.”
Ja’vail’s expression softened ever so slightly before she glanced down at the stone in her hand. “I will look, but I do not promise anything.”
Tor’s crest rose, but he did not say anything else. Instead he turned back to the window, waiting patiently for his wife to see what he had seen.
The memory took Ja’vail less than a second to go through, but she felt like she had been gone for a lifetime when the world came back into focus. She stared at the rock in horror, before throwing it to the ground. It did not shatter, it being made of quartz, but it still felt satisfying after the horrors she had witnessed.
“I was not pleased, either,” Tor said, not even bothering to turn and look. “Even if the visitor was guilty of some crime, I would spare him for what he could teach our people. As it stands, he is lost and alone, hoping for a friend. And I have to kill this lonely soul.”
“But… but we can’t do this! You’re better than this… we’re better than this!” Ja’vail said, nearly in tears. “Would we really sacrifice an innocent for the security of our own realm? Would you… would you…”
“Would I what?” Tor asked, turning to his wife, fire in his eyes. “Would I judge the worth of souls? Would I weigh a single life against the good of my people? Of his people? Would I become my father?”
Ja’vail looked away, her eyes closed as she folded her arms. “I’m… I’m sorry…”
“Don’t be,” Tor said, turning back to the window. “You have no need to apologize. I cannot measure the worth of anyone’s soul, nor would I try. However, this visitor’s life is not worth the lives of every person on this planet. When you include the lives of his own world, as well as the unnamed snake people… well… the choice is quite obvious.”
Ja’vail looked down at the floor, her eyes filling with tears as she thought everything over. “Would it have been better, then, had I not saved his life? Should I have let him drown?” she asked, her voice barely a whisper.
“Maybe. Maybe not. All I know is that the spirits have told us that the lives of others are better off if his is forfeit,” Tor said, his voice filled with bitterness. “I have not even seen this visitor in the flesh, and I do not know anything about him at all. What is he like? Does he have a family? What does he enjoy?” Tor asked, looking to his wife hopefully.
Ja’vail shook her head, not daring to bring her eyes up to meet her husband’s, as she didn’t think she could contain herself if she did. “I cannot say. I was only in his mind for a brief time, and I do not understand much of what I saw,” she said, her form gently shaking, as if a chill wind had entered the room.
Tor looked back at the window, his eyes closed as he thought on this. “Essentially, we are deciding the fate of not only an innocent, but a complete stranger.” Tor took in a deep breath, then slowly let it out. “And try as I might, I cannot measure his worth as greater, or even equal, to the lives of my people’s. If it comes to it, he will be slain, and his body destroyed, just as the spirits have told us to do.”
Ja’vail began crying in earnest, her shoulders slumping with the weight of guilt. This caused Tor to turn to her, lifting her beak gently with one hand until she looked him in the eye. “So… let’s ensure that it never comes to that.”
Ja’vail looked up at Tor, hope in her eyes. “But, Tor, we can’t-”
“Shhhh…” Tor said, encircling his wife in his arms. He was shorter than her, but she still felt comforted, simply because it was him. “I’m not going to murder someone simply because of the damage his life might cause. Siv’s vision wasn’t that his continued existence spelled our doom, but that we must do everything in our power to ensure he doesn’t leave.” He pulled away from her a little, looking up into her hopeful eyes. “His death will be treated as a last resort, nothing more. For now, let us see how much worth his life is. What can he teach us? What is his people like? I, for one, do not want to squander this opportunity that the spirits have gifted us, simply for fear of an unknown future.”
Ja’vail’s crest rose as she dried her tears with the feathers on the back of her arm. “Yes… I completely agree…”
The two of them spent quite a bit of time like that, lost in each other’s arms as the sun slowly set on the horizon. Even after the world was shrouded in night, they were still there, lost in the comfort that each other provided.
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Kel’vara’s beak glowed as she wove her magic, pulling the water from the bucket in front of her. It coalesced into a ball hovering inches above her hand, the swishing, splashing sounds of the liquid a soothing counterpoint to the frustration she was feeling.
She liked working with liquids when she was feeling upset. It had always come easy to her, the seemingly chaotic way it flowed and ebbed was a balm on her nerves, instead of a frustrating mess that most other practitioners found the state of matter to be.
She slowly flexed her fingers and extended her wings, the movements giving a tactile presence to the shapes she was forming in her imagination. Slowly, as if watching ice melt in reverse, the ball of water stretched and flowed, extending here, twirling there, molding and shaping to her will to become whatever she wanted.
In this instance, the water took the shape of a dragon, its long, strong legs striding through the air as it looked around, its inquisitive, intelligent eyes searching for prey, or barring that, a dakri to play with. Its long tail wagged behind it as it seemed to spot something, before it shot off like an arrow, dashing towards whatever had garnered its attention.
The small, watery, facsimile of a dragon didn’t get very far across the room before the door opened, breaking Kel’vara’s concentration and causing her happy little pet to lose its cohesion. In an instant, the once watery, spiky, two legged reptile was nothing more than a mess on the once clean floor.
Kel’vara looked up in annoyance, her gaze falling upon an irritatingly unapologetic Valros as he entered the room. “Haven't you ever heard of knocking?” Kel’vara demanded as she used her magic to scoop up the water and return it to the bucket.
Valros was unimpressed. “Kel’vara, you can’t just stay here sulking, we still have work to do.”
“I’m not sulking! I’m just practicing my more precise spell work,” Kel’vara said, turning up her beak as her crest lay flat against the back of her head.
Valros, however, did not look convinced in the slightest. “Kel’vara, The Lady is her own person. You can hardly expect her to stay around and answer every single question you have.”
“I never said that she wasn’t.”
Valros let out a frustrated sigh. “Well, if you’re sure, then I really think we need to go over the plan for tomorrow,” Valros said, trying to get Kel’vara back on track. “I don’t think we’ll need many knights, the thing’s pretty docile, all things considered. Have you given much thought in how we’re going to actually communicate with it?”
Kel’vara thought about this for a while, her beak glowing softly as she played a little with the water in her bucket, causing the surface of the liquid to ripple in odd ways. “Ja’vail said that she was able to communicate pretty well with it while it was dreaming. The only problem with that is that it was dreaming. I don’t know how dreams work with its species, but for dakri at least, anything that happens to our subconscious from outside forces is quickly forgotten. Bad dreams, flights of fancy, nothing to be taken seriously, or remembered.”
“I’ve been talking with the Captain of the Dreamguards about that too. He told me that we can’t rely upon that for communication, since we’re just as likely to get a straight answer as one about how the creature loves to eat its own pillow and ride a dragon made of Twirly Whirlys,” Valros said, stretching his wings a little and grunting with discomfort. The knight quickly brought his arm close to his chest, searching the broad wing until he found the feather that had been giving him trouble, and quickly put it back into its proper place.
Kel’vara found herself staring a little as the knight preened himself, before she turned away, her feathers fluffing a little in embarrassment. “Yes, and… ah, and in addition, the creature won’t be as weak as when we fished it from the river. It has an ǣon level spirit, after all, regardless of any actual ability it may or may not possess. We’ll be lucky to be able to intrude on its dreams at all.”
If Valros noticed her discomfort, he didn’t show it. Instead, he stood up and made his way to the window. “I remember the Sunrise Tribe had something to communicate, but it was mainly used to control their apprentices during ǣon training. It was supposed to be able to cross language barriers, but I don’t think we want to be dredging up the old ways…”
Kel’vara shuddered a little. “Those ways were barbaric.”
Valros nodded at her, but did not say anything as he stared out the window. “I suppose the only choice we have is to slowly teach the thing how to speak.”
“That’s not as easy as it sounds, though,” Kel’vara said, shaking her head. Valros looked at her, one of his brows raised, prompting her to continue. “When I treated his wounds, I ran a number of tests on him. He’s showing the symptoms of someone who has been transmuted into another shape entirely, except that he has no binding spellform keeping him in that shape.”
Valros looked confused at this. “You’ll have to forgive me, M'lady, but my knowledge of magic is somewhat limited to a handful of combat spells. You’ll have to use less formal terms with me.”
Kel’vara rolled her eyes a little, then used her magic to pull the water from the bucket again. With a thought, she caused the water to take on the shape of a dragon again. “With magic, it is possible to force something to assume another shape or state. Such as turning a dragon into a pig.” With a little exertion, the water took on the desired shape. “I’ll not bore you with the details, but things… well, they remember what they were. Always. If the spell is not properly maintained, the spellform will eventually fall apart, and the thing will revert. This is because things want to return to their old state. They’ll continue chipping away at the spellform, increasing the difficulty of keeping things in their altered state, until it grows beyond the mage’s ability to control. It’s why you cannot turn copper into gold and have it stay that way, or why you cannot turn dirt into food without accidentally poisoning someone.”
“Or purposefully poisoning someone,” Valros pointed out. “I remember history class at least. That happened quite a number of times during the Clan Wars.”
“It was a popular method of assassination, yes, but the old ruling class quickly caught on, and began screening their food before eating.” Kel’vara furrowed her eyes as she twisted the water to appear like the creature. “Whatever the bug-like aliens did to the creature, it didn’t involve magic. ‘The creature’s shape isn’t his own,’ if you remember what the queen told us. It’s entirely possible that it’s lost the ability to speak, even in its own language.”
Valros thought about this for a time. “Well, can’t we turn it back? Reverse the changes, and return it to its original shape?”
Kel’vara thought about this for a little bit, but shook her head. “It’s… possible, but there are so many unknowns. I was even afraid of using regeneration magic on him when I healed him. I had to resort to sealing spells to repair the damage.”
Valros looked confused. “I’m not sure I follow. I thought you healed it up pretty good.”
“I didn’t heal it at all. All I did was fuse its skin together, and do some very basic repair based on that strategy, to keep it from bleeding internally or externally. It’s why I still applied bandages, in case those wounds reopened; I couldn’t risk regenerating it,” Kel’vara explained, her voice both pained and exasperated.
Valros still didn’t understand what the fuss was about, though. “Why not? What’s the big deal if you use a little regeneration? And what does this have to do with changing it back?”
“Everything!” Kel’vara said, standing up in anger as she rubbed both hands through her crest. In response, the water in her grip twisted and flowed into strange shapes, a clear reflection of the tormented state of the battlemage’s mind. “This is an entirely unknown scenario, with an entirely unknown species! The spell to do this doesn’t even exist! All we have are spells to change something into something else, not to return something to its original shape. The way we would do this if this were a magical affliction would be to simply collapse the spellform, but this isn’t magic! If I were to try to change it back, any number of things could go wrong, the least being the creature dies a quick, painful death as it turns completely inside out! The closest I can come up with is the regeneration spell, which would force accelerated cell mitosis using the target’s remembered form, not its changed form. If I did use regeneration, it is entirely possible that the creature might revert…”
“...But?” Valros asked, knowing that there was a but in there somewhere.
“But the creature’s body might start attacking itself, killing itself from the inside out! The two different sets of genetic material might merge, making it into something even more monstrous than it is now! Any number of things could go wrong!” Kel’vara shouted, the water next to her turning into some kind of lumbering beast, whose basic shape only vaguely resembled the creature in the forest.
Valros held up his hands in a placating gesture. “Okay, okay, I get it. It’s probably a bad idea… but what do we do, then?”
Kel’vara collapsed into her chair, the water that she had been shaping falling into the bucket at the same time. “I don’t know… I really don’t know…”
Valros rubbed the back of his neck. “Well, there’s always pictures and trying to teach it to read…”
“That would take even longer than just teaching it to talk,” Kel’vara said dismissively. “Especially since it probably can’t-”
Before Kel’vara finished, a voice chimed in, interrupting her thought process. It seemed to be coming from the lieutenant’s belt pouch, and based on the tone of the speaker’s voice, whatever it was was urgent. “Sir Valros! Are you there?”
Valros quickly pulled out his whispering stone and gave it a squeeze, worry building in his heart. “What’s wrong, Calis?”
He almost wished he hadn’t asked, because what Calis said next turned his insides to ice. “Sir, I’m relaying a message. Viar and his drakes need backup, and they need it now. It’s those bug aliens the queen told us about. They’re here.”
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So I have the classic “loud brain chatter radio channel switching” type of thoughts. I have been paying more attention to my thoughts and I just realized how fucking strangely my brain thinks. Part of me thinks adhd is the cause but I’m curious if anyone else relates or if there is another issue going on. Here are some examples:

1. Was scrolling through Instagram and I saw a video of three Indian girls dancing. I saw that some random guy from work liked it and I think “I’m Indian and kind of look like the middle girl so maybe I’m his type. maybe he has a crush on me, remember that one time when..”. Im not attracted to this guy at all, I don’t care in the slightest what his type is, I don’t want to pursue him or anything like that and no, I’m not in denial. I dont want him to have a crush on me. He’s a random guy I speak to once every few months at most. But I catch myself going on these weird tangents about random people all day and I feel like a narcissist or something.
   
2. I posted a video on my social media and a very specific random picture popped up into my head of my crush from 5 years ago looking at the video, looking up the song I tagged, and adding it to his Spotify. Like what???? So oddly specific and it just popped into mind.
   
3. Bought a dragon fruit from the market then went home and started daydreaming that I was raised on a tropical island and had to grow dragon fruit for a living. The whole time I was cutting up the fruit my mind was wandering. I ate it, then started getting ready for a date. I ended up daydreaming about my date and I living on an island and raising our child on the beach. Like, such a an intense fantasy.
   
4. I saw a girl who looked like my younger sisters childhood friend who I haven’t seen in decades. I then decided to look up the girl on Instagram and I ended up social media stalking her and other random people from our childhood for an hour.
   
5. My boss mentioned that she likes Taylor swift and I started thinking about how if she ever asked me to play music for the office, I wouldn’t be able to play Taylor swift without looking like a suck up. Like when will she realistically ever ask me to play music??
   

I feel like such a weirdo sometimes and now that i am more conscious of these thoughts, I get anxiety whenever I notice them. Was I dropped on my head as a kid?? Am I a narcissist that thinks everything revolves around me? What is wrong with me.

Still in my top 10. Been a fan of sah for a while. Listened to most of his albums, leaks etc.
Puwas (I genuinely cannot be bothered typing out the entire song title, so it’s “Puwas” from now on) is still in my top 10 after hearing most of his stuff. Idk, it’s a soundcloud classic for me. When I think of the OG soundcloud era 2016/17 era when the sc scene was on top of the world. I like to think of the many songs that were released in that era as soundcloud classics, imagine all the classic soundcloud bangers displayed in a hall. Like the race, Gucci Gang, Love Scars, magnolia etc. All of these songs are displayed in a “soundcloud classics hall of fame”. Songs that were the signature/mascot songs of that very era. When you think of the 2016/17 era, those are the songs that come to mind, the ones that left a footprint of 2017.
Puwas in my opinion is one of those songs. Although it may not have been as popular as the ones I mentioned. I still consider it a signature mascot song of that era. It’s legendary.
So in your opinion, after hearing most of his music as long time fan. How does Puwas still hold up with you?

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I like most types of music, but I usually select for songs that have nuance/subtlety in them, in terms of both lyrics and instrumentation. I just naturally veer away from songs that have the typical love song/materialist vibes, because I feel like they're usually not very layered in meaning most of the time. I tend not to like a song just for its catchiness or cheeriness, as long as its combined with layered lyrical meaning and subtlety. Now that I think back on my inclinations when it comes to listening to music, it makes sense that my INFJ personality type, in small part, have contributed to my music preferences.
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Dream pop and indie rock usually are my top 2 genres that usually satisfy those conditions of mine.
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As a fellow INFJ, my top 5 artists/groups are:
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1.) Radiohead- Their albums' themes, like loneliness and alienation, really resonate with me on a pretty deep level.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zFYEYRcjK2g&ab_channel=Radiohead-Topic
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2.) Men I Trust- Their soft vocals and dreamlike synths really concoct well together to make something truly nourishing to one's soul.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DviID8Ni7Ns&ab_channel=MenITrust
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3.)BoA (the British rock band, not the Korean singer) - Quite poetic lyrics for an indie rock band. The main female vocalist has quite unique intonations for singing as well.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uoox9fpmDP0&ab_channel=B%C3%B4a
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4.) Steve Conte - Steve Conte has quite the powerful voice, actually. However, the meaning behind the words he sings carry such weight that I feel deeply touched to the extent that I shed a tear every once in a while when listening to his songs, depending on my mood.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zuo0YOiPPlk&ab_channel=steveconte%EF%BC%8Fshantisnyder%5Breading%5D-Topic
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5.) Any video game or anime music that have subtlety and deep meaning in them.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgO-L3O3jMo&ab_channel=Evan
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It would be really great if y'all could give your insights as to how your MBTI affected your musical preferences, and as to how my MBTI have affected mine.

Overall sloppy work from the framers from the beginning. Luckily I posted here and got some criticisms on a wall of windows that was not framed correctly. I talked to a friend who is a local inspector. He came out pointed out a laundry list of items and conversed with my independent architect, then his friend (our inspector) spent close to 4 hours walking the home and failed them on many blatant items. They tried passing off 3 - 2x4's instead of using a glulam beam to support my vaulted living room ceiling LVL etc etc. AS well as overpen of nails in the zip sheathing (HUNDREDS) shit install of tape and not rolling the tape and not following nailing patterns on our architectural drawings. Not to mention finding countless empty beer bottles thrown into my woods by the framers.... My FIL who is subbing as the electrical contractor talked with the project manager about the zip sheathing and the PM stated "he talked to zip and it's fine" I have seen countless posts in here about using liquid flashing on over penned nails. How do I navigate this conversation? I have led the PM on to believe I am naïve, but I have many friends and family in the industry who have had my back since the beginning. I do not wish to strain my relationship with my builder.

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Intro

To preface this review, I just need to say that this is going to be a very, long read. Going through it myself just for the fun of it takes around 30 minutes — it's almost 7k words of text, including lyrical references. So for the best experience, listen to the album beforehand to understand what the hell I was thinking when I wrote this review, play the album while reading, and set a good amount of time aside.
And yes, this is 9 months late 😭 I'm not sorry — when I find an album review online it's always around a paragraph per song or even shorter. It makes sense from a journalistic perspective, but I want to do this album justice, hence taking 7 months to write out all my thoughts.
This shit is comprehensive and definitely overanalyzed, especially in Talk that Talk and Trouble. Each song review will compose of my commentary going over the song, noting the details I noticed through months of listening, then a conclusion. Also, mild swearing warning, I like implementing a touch of "French" when I'm very emotional about something. Anyway, onto the review!
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Between 1&2 💞

Album Review
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TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT
TELL ME WHAT YOU NEED
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Talk that Talk 🎙

Lead producer: collapsedone
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One of the most perfect TWICE songs.
I think this is one of TWICE’s best-sounding title tracks. Warm modulated synths, a thrumming bass line, distant bells, shimmering synths — the purpose of this song is to be fun and my god is it excellent at it, like… Sana and Chaeyoung are saying knock-knock-knock and beep-beep-beep as if they’re some kind of car. So much fun.
Further along in the verse, Dahyun’s voice sounds so full and smooth with that layered harmony. Tzuyu coming with the Yes or Yes, Push & Pull, and 1 to 10 references — these are 5 years of song references. And Jeongyeon closes the pre-chorus accompanied by a rising synth to drop into chorus one. Jeongyeon slays pre-choruses.
The drums accelerate, the synths start blasting, and Jihyo opens to that party of a chorus with her godly vocals,
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Tell me what you want
Tell me what you need
A to Z da malhaebwa
But shijageun ireoke have
Talk that talk ttak han madi
Talk that talk L-O-V-E
deullyeojweo ooh
Now now now now now yeah~

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During Sana's Talk that Talk~ lines there’s this gentle ascending synth bell that rings with the descending melody and it sounds absolutely gorgeous. And the choreography during that part of the chorus is so so so so fun: the talking hands bit, spelling L-O-V-E, concluding with the deullyeojweo ooh! Oh my Jihyo the deullyeojweo ooh…
Have I mentioned this song is fun?
Speeding through verse 2; Chaeyoung’s part with the cat ears popping in the music video is adorable; Momo her stretching her arms out looks so damn cool; and Dahyun with her replay part sounds so lovely — although I think it sonically sounds a touch random, it makes sense thematically.
And now for this pre-chorus. Mina and Jihyo leading into it sound great BUT JEONGYEON… Now, she is my ult bias, and this pre-chorus sounds almost identical to the first one, but the way she holds that final note, enunciating and holding that now~ for one more beat before the chorus drops sounds so perfect — the song teeters on a cliff edge. Jeongyeon slays pre-choruses.
Dropping into the second chorus and man, Jihyo powered through that first chorus, but the way Nayeon delivers it just hits different. She has this indescribable “pop” voice (I promise this wasn't on purpose) that stands out and shouts this is THE chorus. I think this is especially apparent in how both lead their choruses where Jihyo starts at 120% power while Nayeon waits until [Tell me] WHAT YOU WANT to full-send it. She also highlights “malhaebwa” in a similar way later in the chorus.
Another deullyeojweo ooh! Nayeon travels to Narnia, and Mina the engineer strikes again in this heavenly, underwater-esque bridge,
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The simple words “I love you”
That’s all I wanna hear
Without hesitation, I’ll go up to you
I’ll make it simple
And just tell you I love you

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The word “love” is said for the first time in the song. There’s a funky keyboard instrument behind Chaeyoung’s part. Jihyo, Chaeyoung, and Nayeon take the initiative in their lyrics, professing their love before closing the bridge.
And now for the pièce-de-résistance: this final double chorus is exceptional — 40 seconds of crack-laced euphoria; Jihyo switches up the chorus and the choreo, Dahyun chimes in with her fluttery “Talk that Talk”, Momo comes out of nowhere with “oh yeah it sounds so good!” — you’re damn right it does, and this is where the song SOARS.
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han beon deo~ haejweo
geurae banggeum geu mal~

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Nayeon outright shouts “Tell me what you need” and then Jeongyeon sings the above lines in such an ethereal, warm way where the first line ascends while the second line descends, causing a lull in the song before the finale with Nayeon, finishing off the song with the final deullyeojweo ooh! What a party. What a song.
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THE GOOD

• The synths of all time
• The chimes during Talk-that-talk~
• Jeongyeon’s pre-chorus going into Nayeon’s chorus
• The entirety of that magical, final chorus and outro

Needs Work

• The opening hook (Tell me what you want) and accompanying choreography could be “catchier”

Core Memory

• Singing (and dancing) my heart out when this song played at a K-pop club

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Lyrics and theme-wise, if this were to have been TWICE’s last comeback, they’ve once again built upon the theme they've been doing since debut: a Bildungsroman, a coming-of-age story.
This song’s chorus is honest yet simple; it asks the listener, in this case, the other half of the relationship, to be more upfront and open with their love (never be scared of love), that before the relationship can continue and flourish there has to be a foundation and commitment of love between each other.
TWICE debuted with a song about making your crush go ooh ahh. Years later, they started pondering “What is love?” and imagining their crush responding with “yes” when asking them out — and now concluding with the phrase “Talk that talk, [talk that] L-O-V-E”, being upfront with the relationship, wishing their partner to also be happy, to commit to them, to feel the love that they want to impart on them. From gawking like ooh-ahh to talking out your shared love like adults — to having a true relationship between (one and) two.
And can I just say before finishing off Talk that Talk's review that this is such a fun and repeatable song with many little intricacies hidden in the nonet’s vocals and the production. This is the third draft I’m writing about Talk that Talk and its original word count pretty much quadrupled.
Harkening back to TWICE’s roots by combining mature thinking with youthful character, an incredible ending to look forward to, and just simply being a club-banger that’s easy to listen to, TTT is an easy 10/10.
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WATCH ME GO WATCH ME GO
RULE THE WORLD
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Queen of Hearts 👑

Lead producer: LDN Noise of SM
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If there was one B-side to promote in a live clip, this was a solid choice.
Helmed by LDN Noise going headlong into the Western boy-group rock-band aesthetic, Queen of Hearts is a boom-boom-clap song through and through. The drums are very prominent throughout the song, only giving room to riffs of electric guitar in the chorus to drive and continue the momentum of the music.
And speaking of the chorus, vocal line each got a chorus to flex and they did not fuck around,
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You ain’t ready for it
Watch me go~ watch me go~
Rule the world
Know you never doubted baby
I’mma go run the whole universe~

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Cymbals crashing, drums booming, and 3MIX belting all just so sound so good.
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Baby I was born to rule~~
Yeah I’m the queen, I’m the queen
And it’s all because of you~~
That I’m the Queen of Hearts

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These long, held-out notes performed by Jihyo and Nayeon are simply exquisite. Along with the shredding guitar, the drum set coming in full, and the interludes by Dahyun, Momo, and Chaeyoung, this is the part of the song that always, always, gives me goosebumps — it sounds so visceral, so energetic, so fun, so triumphant. Boom-boom-clap songs can be hit or miss with people, but there's no denying the payoff from the first part of the chorus to the second part is worth the wait.
The theme of the song so far has been kind of spread around the song. The chorus alludes to it with the line "And it’s all because of you." But Mina shows more sides of it in the second verse, especially with the phrase,
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And now that I’m surrounded by all my girls
We be shining bright like diamonds and pearls

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It sounds really lovely — in a very cheesy and affectionate kind of way, as it rightfully should — the song is about the girls and their fans. But the bridge is where the song indeed shows its colours
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Screaming out my name
See it in the stage lights
Feel so lucky just to have ya
Cause I know deep down I was meant for something bigger! Greater!
I know you’re seeing what I see
Yeah I’ll be everything you need
I know I’m gonna walk the walk
And talk the talk to be~ [the Queen of Hearts]

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This is a song CONCEIVED TO BE PERFORMED FOR THE FANS. It’s meant to be loud. It’s meant to be unapologetic. It’s meant to be sappy. And it’s all the more wonderful for it.
This is the TWICEiest shit ever.
Like Talk that Talk, Queen of Hearts also has a killer closer. The production already started to grow from the bridge, but now the guitarist finally went Super Saiyan and instead of supporting the drums, they both take the centrepiece in tandem.
Then finally, the closing moments of the song even manage to squeeze in some more sappiness.
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So thank you for the memories
You’re all the ones who made me~
So thank you for the memories
That I’m the Queen of Hearts

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I still can’t believe that this banger is a FAN SONG out of all things. Truly, the TWICEiest shit ever.
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THE GOOD

• Adorable fucking lyrics
• Unrelenting, roaring chorus
• English and vocal flex
• Addicting guitar riffs

Needs Work

• Chaeyoung rapping in English in their Korean songs somehow slaps harder than her English rapping in their English songs, nonetheless, in QoH, it fits with the sound of the song

Life Highlight

• Walking home from a K-pop festival with this song playing, felt like a Queen of Hearts

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I love these types of rock songs with how grunge and head-bang-able they are, there is just a certain nostalgic and cheesy quality to them that feels so cozy. I don’t love putting them on repeat, because in this case, I do believe there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. Perhaps more shredding, maybe a guitar solo to rock out to, or an accompaniment(!) of ad-libs from 3MIX to support Jihyo’s final chorus? A ONCE can dream of a truly bombastic rock song from TWICE. But then again that distracts from the core of what this song is: a fan song disguised as a rock song.
Queen of Hearts has so much sweetness in its lyrics and message that it's overflowing. The drums, guitar, and vocals can be as loud and intricate as they can, but the theme of this song is what makes it special from TWICE’s other rock songs — it’s a 9/10 for me.
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I WANNA WANNA WANNA
TAKE YOU TO THE BASICS
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Basics 🌈

Sole lyricist credit: Chaeyoung
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Quite possibly the jammiest (pun intended) song of the album.
A song written by the Strawberry Princess herself — an event similar in frequency to other artists' releases with her last song being 2020’s silky Handle It — Basics first starts with an understated and dreamy delivery. After the first stanza, however, a bouncy Miami bass line emerges, revealing the true nature of the song: this is a classic summer bop! Especially in the first rap,
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dareun aedeulgwaneun dalla
Ain’t beggin’ for love
nappeun geon anijana ige naraseo
eodiro twilji molla
Like rainbow bubble gum
geureoni nal kkwak butjabadweo

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Syllables are pronounced in a relaxed nature, bars often starting with an "ah" sound, flirty lines in English — this rap features a production full of pop with R&B flourishes and, in my opinion, this is Chaeyoung’s bag. Also, the line "rainbow bubblegum" is so adorable and so Chaeyoung.
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I wanna wanna wanna take it to the basics
da weonhae weonhae weonhae? seodureuji ma Baby
ppeonhae ppeonhae malhae mweohae da al tende
Ah yeah ah yeah ah yeah ah yeah

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That chorus is pure pop with a Miami bass backing; you better be bopping your head to the melody, if not booty poppin' to the bassline. Chaeyoung loves rhyming in the first half of the chorus to enhance its catchiness and it's damn incredible: the “wanna”, “weonhae”, and “ppeonhae” all create these imperfect rhymes that continue momentum without feeling repetitive.
After the very Boy With Luv-sounding “ah yeah ah yeah, ah yeah ah yeah” comes an 8-bar split half and half between Chaeyoung and Momo. Coming from the chorus, the production completely cuts out for the first 2 bars. This adds tension; the song yearns to have that bass beat thumping again and all we have in the audio space in those 2 bars is Chaeyoung spittin' and she delivered.
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taneun deut tteugeoun samak wie
yeppeuge pieonan jangmi gata
joshimseure naege dagaol ttae
nado moreuge jjilleobeoril tende

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Above the hot, burning desert
It’s like a rose that bloomed beautifully
When you come to me slowly
I will prick you unconsciously

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The rap feels slick, effortless, and confident. Her diction remains sharp when enunciating each syllable but she doesn’t let the flow of her rap waver or build as her 4 bars go by, it’s just smooth consistency throughout. Even the lyrics possess an aura of laid-back collectedness that is just so her. The things Chaeyoung can do when given her pen.
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THE GOOD

• That sweet summer vibe of a chorus
• The “spaceship” post-chorus is killer
• Chaeyoung devoured this song
• Sure-footed, confident lyrics

Needs Work

• Perhaps an alteration of that ah yeah ah yeah line
• The way Jihyo did her pre-chorus line is good, but Mina’s is great

Core Memory

• After donating my hair, walking down the rainbow-coloured areas of downtown Toronto with this song playing was very… fitting

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This song is summer bliss distilled into 2:56. It’s dreamy, the raps are satisfying, and the ending is charming. I will say that although the second half of the song adds the stunning “spaceship” post-choruses and a floaty bridge with an incredible drumbeat drop into the final chorus, the raps of the song make it feel a bit front-loaded. And in an album stacked with awesome finishers, it feels more apparent.
With that said, it’s an 8/10 bop for me. This song is so easy to put on and it feels exactly what Chaeyoung would make if given the reins to produce a pop song all on her own. The lyrics are nonchalant but full of conviction, the wordplay is intricate, and the production playful but not too bombastic — it's just a nice vibe. Songs like Basics are the standard for good, simple, repeatable pop music and I’m happy that Chaeyoung got to test her pen in this genre.
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BABY WE’RE IN
TROUBLE TROUBLE
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Trouble 💃

Sole lyricist credit: Jihyo
Background vocals: Jihyo
Lead composer credit: Jihyo
Vocal director credit: Jihyo (an assumption given her contributions in First Time)
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One of the most enjoyable songs I’ve heard in a while.
There is an underlying tension within the first 4 bars of the song, Jihyo and Nayeon confidently open it to a nondescript array of synths and then the stanza ends, Momo announces “Let’s go”, the beat drops and it hits you: this is a club song.
Dahyun's relaxed delivery contrasted with Jeongyeon's staccato flow, the wobbly synth beat with sprinkle of house piano, Sana dramatically slowing down the song only for Tzuyu to build it back up until the chorus drops,
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• Nayeon opens it using a breathy tone, with vocal chops serving as harmonies
• The blooming of the house piano takes centre stage and the song ascends into euphoria
• A random drum roll capped off by a cymbal crash
• Jeongyeon’s pronunciation of the word “trouble” almost being a growl
• Chaeyoung slyly admitting “I like this trouble”
• The entirety of Tzuyu’s tro~oh~oh~ouble yeah~
• Sana using her deep voice for the na~na~na~na
• Jihyo leading the vocals during the synchronized T W I C E chant

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This chorus is perfect. Toronto’s residential market needs this song injected into its veins because god damn this song has SO much house in it. And then, ANOTHER KILLING PART: this rap fucking slaps.
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gamchweo bwatja geugeon Fake
ppajin hamjeongeun Sweet cake

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During the first 2 bars, Chaeyoung is keeping it calm because that trip of a chorus just ended and the song needs a breather, but I don't think anyone expected her to SNAP this hard afterwards:
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You cannot resist this
Cannot miss this, such a bliss
Ima put it down down
Oh yeah, better kiss kiss

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Below is the structure of her this portion of the rap, I’m not that well versed in this technical aspect of music theory but I digress, this is all in the span of around 5 seconds where it’s:
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Triplet-triplet
Quadruplet-triplet
Quadruplet-doublet
Doublet-quadruplet

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Now, 25/5 = 5 syllables per second isn’t groundbreaking, but goddamn it these 2 bars sound so nice — if there is one part in this album that I always repeat, it’s this. The addition of that first quadruplet for “cannot miss this” in the midst of the triplets sticks out and accelerates the flow of the rap while the following doublets and quadruplets destabilize and slow the rap down as the verse closes. And can I just point out:
THE MAIN VOCALIST WROTE, DIRECTED, AND COMPOSED THIS SONG ‼
Chaeyoung of course delivered the fuck out of her verse but THIS is what you get when you have a member not only write the words they’re saying but also the melody and flow with which they sing it, when that member knows the others so well that when they write a song they know how to make the group exceed. This is what you get when the artists you stan love doing artist shit.
And. AND. That's not all — with how much I mentioned I love a good outro to close a song, this outro slaps as well:
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Woo wee woo wee woo
I like this trouble be-be
Woo wee woo wee woo
I like this trouble bay-be
Woo wee woo wee woo
I like this trouble bay-beh
Woo wee woo wee woo
I like this trou-ble

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Like, come on, Nayeon’s imitating a police siren for crying out loud. And this is all after her ad-libs in the final post-chorus; after the pianist going full tilt and playing that piano as if it was their last chance to ever play; after that final T W I C E chant by all the members come these blissful 20 seconds at the very end. What a song.
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THE GOOD

• The theme of relishing in an uncontrolled love
• Sana and Mina’s melody in the pre-chorus
• Chorus
• Rap
• Outro
• Wees and woos

Needs Work

• Mina’s line of “falling down, falling down, falling down low” in verse 2 feels a bit too abrupt of a change

Core Memory

• While writing Trouble's review I had this song on repeat for my whole subway commute and I must've been so distracting, just head-bopping and being so invested in enjoying a song

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Need I say more, easy 9/10. The only reason I place Talk that Talk above Trouble is because of what that song represents but besides that, this is one of the best “international” sounds they’ve put out. Actually, I haven’t listened to Eyes wide open in a while but this song is up there with one of the most sonically pleasing pieces of work they’ve done.
Clubbing TWICE has always been a thing since TT was birthed in 2016, and has been a staple of their discography since 2019’s Fancy You and Feel Special mini albums, but Trouble unapologetically dives into and fits the house genre so well you’d think that this is TWICE’s bread and butter sound.
Trouble is Jihyo’s magnum opus. What a song.
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BRAVE BRAVE BRAVE
FOR YOU
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Brave 💖

Main producer: Slow Rabbit of HYBE
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I first thought this was just a good song, then I read the lyrics.
Gentle guitar plucks, shimmering synths, a distant keyboard in the right ear, in the left a glockenspiel, the melodic oohs from the members — this song is PRETTY.
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The night that was unusually dark
Above this terrifying world, felt so lonely
The world has grown in the time of wandering
So hard to breathe

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Mina and Chaeyoung open the song with how they feel lonely and that it's hard to breathe and now suddenly the song feels bittersweet — I was not expecting the song to be this emotional. Brave describes a situation where the singer is in a darker place in life and it isn't until another person gives them hope by calling them 'brave' that they find the drive to keep going.
Once the chorus hits, the melodies pick up, more guitars get added — there’s even an electric guitar hidden in the mix somewhere, and the song drops the emotional front to reveal a mid-tempo pop song to dance to while crying in the club. The song as a whole still carries this melancholy feeling, but now with the added support of this chorus acting as a light amongst the gloom.
Continuing on in the second verse there's this gorgeous, well-placed break in the song that just lets it settle after that chorus. Only a seasoned producer would risk this much empty space in a song and Slow Rabbit went to fill those shoes.
Back to the chorus, I'll take this moment to once again commend Slow Rabbit with the mixing of the song, because 4MIX undoubtedly sounds good in the chorus, and the interludes from Dahyun, Chaeyoung, and Mina also sound really good, but the clear highlight of the choruses are these lines:
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Oh na na na neon nal naige hae [Momo, then Tzuyu, then Momo]
On and on and on
Brave brave brave for ya [Dahyun, then Chaeyoung, then Mina]
Oh na na na neon nal sum shwige hae [Sana, then Momo, then Sana]
On and on and on oh trust me babe

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Momo, Sana, and Tzuyu form this beautiful, surprisingly catchy, second half of the chorus accompanied by a guitar drop. It should not turn out this well with how conflicting the "na"s are with the guitar melody but it creates this gentle bopping ebb and flow that feels so lush and mellow.
Diving into the bridge reveals that the listener of the song is revealed not only capable of supporting the singer through direct words but also through their thoughts and dreams. As can be discerned, this can be a song interpreted to be about ONCEs, about how they push TWICE to be their best selves despite the breathless hardships they face. It's a very sweet and touching song.
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THE GOOD

• Special lyrics
• Pleasant sound to vibe out to
• That gentle break after the first chorus
• Jihyo’s high note at the end
• A Nayeon Jeongyeon joint high note ⁉️
• Just pretty vocals throughout

Needs Work

• Potentially hard to comprehend without translating the Korean lyrics

Core Memory

• Form of Therapy’s life motto revolves around the word “brave”. I don’t know where I got that from, but I remembered it right before watching his album reaction

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I’m actually spoiled with the TWICE members’ easy-to-understand songwriting that when a song like this pops up where it's not written by a member and the thematic bits are mostly in Korean, I tend to put it aside in favour of the other songs on the album. And, especially for a song focusing on a theme like this where the English phrases don’t do the Korean lyrics enough justice, it does place a bit of a barrier on the listening experience, dropping it down to a 7/10 from an 8/10.
With that anecdote out of the way, this song is just such a vibe, man. I know that sounds super hippy to say but Brave is so mellow and smooth that I can’t help but sway a little when that chorus hits. And then I remember what the lyrics say and I tear up a bit on the inside. This song is so pure, raw, and full of heart — we need more songs like these where they just reminisce about life while putting up an upbeat front. Don't mind me just crying while dancing the night away.
With that said, this isn't the first time this theme has been sung by TWICE either, they've long trodden this path of supportive, confiding, up-lifting songs with Young & Wild, Rainbow, Queen, Go Hard, Depend on You, even this album's Queen of Hearts, and, of course, Feel Special. Brave just adds another on top of an already stacked lineup, unique with its mellow somberness.
Also now feels like a good time to get into my rating system:

• 7/10s are songs are ones that are simply good throughout or great songs with apparent flaws
• 8/10s are great songs with standout characteristics
• 9/10s are borderline perfect songs where I sometimes can't comprehend how great they are
• And 10/10s are the best of an artist's discography, songs that encapsulate their ethos perfectly or expand upon them in a meaningful way

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I SEE THE LIES
ON THE TIP OF YOUR TONGUE
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Gone 💨

Sole lyricist credit: Dahyun
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Who the fuck pissed off Dubu this time??
It’s getting quite rare to see TWICE pull off brand new sounds because, with now 190 original songs under their belt, they’ve done so many genres and sub-genres varying from hyper pop, to bossa nova, to whatever 2020’s Go Hard is. So it’s surprising to see they’ve still got tricks up their sleeves and Gone is one of them.
The song starts with strings swinging back and forth and vocal chops dancing from ear to ear, teasing what’s yet to come. Jihyo enters the song with a whisper and the song sets its pace. A stagnant drum pad moves the song along and typical song progression would have Mina continue the build but — it doesn’t. The song simmers, adding a hint of high hat to the pot. And then, Sana and Tzuyu come on and surely the buildup must boil over right?
Silence, until…
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I see the LIES on the top of your tongue

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The strings emerge again on full blast, the simmer rolls to a boil, and the anger of the song is revealed,
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All the fate I had towards you
Fades like a fog, gone, gone
Your flipping mind of doing this and that
I’m tired of it, it’s meaningless
In the beginning, it was hard to believe
With that, hatred increases

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The singer is so scorned and burned from this relationship that they reminisce about all the effort they’ve put in since the beginning, but their “partner” is so unconcerned that they’ve just about had enough of the relationship altogether.
This has been Dahyun’s thing since 2020’s Bring It Back, 2021’s Cruel, 2022’s That’s all I’m saying, and even 2023's Don't Blame It On Me — emotionally charged breakup songs that make you feel as if she’s gone through a dozen bad relationships. Dispatch, do your job better, or don't.
Another highlight of the song is the post-chorus going into the bridge. This segment reiterates the structure from the first post-chorus — a barrage of drums supported by the rhythmic strumming of a bass guitar along with a consistent synth filling out the soundscape. But this time, it’s Dahyun and Chaeyoung on the rap:
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I can’t stand it anymore [Dahyun]
My patience, invisible
I can’t find it, it’s all gone
Even if I try to turn back, it’s too late [Chaeyoung]
There’s no use anymore
It has left, it’s long gone
You, with flipping mind, you are out [Momo]
I know that you know what I’m talking about [Dahyun]
Nothing you could say that could turn this around
I’m gone

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Continuing the disrespected theme of the song, Dahyun notes that she’s finally had enough with Chaeyoung adding that there’s no point salvaging what was once there for all of it is long gone. Momo and Dahyun round it off by telling the listener that there’s no point trying to reason with them or playing naive, they fucked up and there’s no coming back.
Can I just say, it's a bit of a shame that Chaeyoung’s rapping popped off in this album while Dahyun only has this one verse that she shares with Chaeyoung, but it just sounds so good how Dahyun eases in after the chorus with her light rapping tone transitioning into her singing. She even holds the “gone” in a little crescendo for some added pizzazz.
And, there’s no way I’m not going to talk about Momo’s vocals in this bridge. Damned if she only got 1 line to use it in, her lower register is incredible. She sounds so smooth singing in this tone. All of TWICE do in particular and there is nary a weak vocal performance in this album.
To close the song off, a wash of synths gets to have their shine in the spotlight, showered with Nayeon’s belting, signifying the dramatic and drawn-out conclusion of this partnership.
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THE GOOD

• They’ve still got their surprises
• Thundering chorus
• 2nd rap and bridge combo
• A bitter, crumbling relationship theme

Needs Work

• I’m not a huge fan of the mixing during the first post-chorus, where Momo's vocals were fighting with the production, which is disappointing because Momo is capable of an insane flow
• The post-chorus in general, specifically the first one, can be a bit tiring on repeat listens

Core Memory

• Actually, I think this song sounds like a mix between GOT7's Not By The Moon, BLACKPINK’s Love To Hate Me, and Dahyun’s Bring It Back. I don’t know where I got this thought came from, but it stuck

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Going back to that point about the first post-chorus as a whole; songs that have the production continue unchanged into the post-chorus/2nd verse are very hit or miss for me — see TWICE's Don't Call Me Again for an overbearing example. The post-chorus going into the bridge contrasts Dahyun’s light tone nicely with the hard-hitting production, continuing the energy until it slowly fades into silence at the end of the bridge.
Back to the song as a whole, as much as TWICE has been experimenting with their sound for the past 4 years now, I’m happy they’re still finding new ways to explore what they’re capable of. And for that alone, even though I’m not a big fan of songs like these where they rely on sounding “big”, Dahyun’s lyricism and the thrill I receive every time I indulge myself in this song when I listen to it for the first time in a while elevates it to an 8/10. Keep on breaking hearts, Dubu.
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SUPERHEROES
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When We Were Kids 🧸

Sole lyricist credit: Dahyun
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Press play to reminisce, pull up lyrics to cry.
This song is so beautiful. I’m totally not writing this song review, crying on the bus reminiscing about my childhood, while just having turned 21. I don’t know if these are happy or sad tears but this song is so beautiful either way.
Warm synths, muted piano, a gentle high hat, the younger members starting off the song — this has to be up there for one of the softest TWICE songs ever. And as it should, it’s one of the TWICEiest songs ever. And then Nayeon comes in,
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Invincible superheroes, we wanted to be adults
To the higher, clearer world

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The chords start swelling, the high hat keeps pace, and the harmonies come in,
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Remember when we were kids
When we were kids, we didn’t know
If we could go back
I will love it even more
Remember when we were kids

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Jihyo takes up the second half of the chorus as it drops, trading the strings for an almost R&B synth production — if choir R&B takes off, this song started it. The song relishes in this cacophony of warm sounds until returning to its sparse and peaceful verses.
This time, the hints of piano are louder, little twinkling synths begin to shimmer, the drum buildup comes and Jeongyeon drives the song straight into the chorus. No time for the strings to build like in Nayeon’s — this song loves its chorus so much.
And I'll just take this time to appreciate the amount of Jeongyeon vocals in this album. Her voice is so clean, stable, and projected — but also more tender and soft compared to the more pronounced tones of Nayeon and Jihyo.
The bridge comes in, repeating the phrase:
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I wish that I could meet
Could meet the younger me

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Giving the song time to rest, before building back up to the last chorus — this time led by Jihyo, completing the 3MIX trifecta. And interestingly enough, Chaeyoung follows up in the second half of the chorus, rather than another member of the vocal line. She really did pop off in this album.
As the last chorus begins to close, the percussion at its strongest, the harmonies on blast, the background vocals cranked up to their Sunday best, is the song going to end? Of course not! This is an album full of banger endings as if the songs don’t want to end, and When We Were Kids being the album closer very much indulges in that feeling.
After a brief refrain, accented by Nayeon’s high note with a touch of vibrato, the song almost dives back into a fourth chorus. Nayeon and Jeongyeon harmonize — a rare and heavenly moment. And the song repeats the bridge, reiterating that they want to meet their younger selves, this time with the lush chorus production before closing with silence, a few piano notes, and Tzuyu singing the last line of the song:
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Oh, we were kids

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Reflection, acceptance, hope. What a song.
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THE GOOD

• Heavenly vocals throughout
• Relatable, heartfelt lyrics
• Euphoric chorus
• Great closer to the album

Needs Work

• Refrain after the last chorus, "Back when we were kids," could’ve been executed better

Core Memory

• For an album titled Between 1&2, I don’t think anything hits harder than finishing the song reviews, with this song in particular, during your 21st birthday

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I wrote the first part of this review in November 2022. Then university, life, and other things got in the way of my headspace for me to feel confident about wrapping all of this up. In a way, I felt like I just didn’t want this review to end because of the joy that writing gives me — I didn’t want the happiness to end. And then it hit me, after watching a YouTuber rank animated movies and them placing Spirited Away at the top and explaining 'why' reminded me of just how important growing up is, and by extension this song.
This theme is important for both the rookie TWICE members in 2015 and the teenagers who would follow their journey and grow up with them, facing life’s obstacles along the way. Hardships that used to only involve family, crushes, and social media, evolve into work, commitments and all the struggles that adult life brings. Being a kid and enjoying the simple things in life is one of the most sought-after moments we want to relive because we took growing up for granted. The only thing we can do now is look back on ourselves with fondness and rose-tinted lenses.
TWICE’s original marketing was to resonate with people through their senses and their hearts. That was during their debut, and I think it still holds up today. In my opinion, touching people through their emotions is what TWICE does best and makes them one of K-pop’s all-time greats. It was never about having the best numbers — it was always about being the best idols. And to think that this journey of maturation and growth would occur from 2015 all the way to this song, being a fitting nod to TWICE’s 7th anniversary, I don’t think anyone at the company nor the group would ever imagine that they would get this far. It’s these nine women or none — 9/10.
This song honestly deserves a 10/10 with how much I noticed other people reminiscing their childhoods after I heard this song, it is such a widely-relatable message, but I am determined to limit myself to one 10/10 song per album and if I were to pick between TTT and WWWK, I'd give it to the one's that's more repeatable — Talk that Talk just has this electric energy about it.
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Epilogue

And finally here is the end. If you made it in one sitting then I commend you, because I could not write this mess in one sitting. As alluded to, I started writing this album review sometime in October, after a series of edits the first draft was finished in March, and now here's the final draft in June.
I love this album. It got me through some important parts of my life, both good and bad, and it's just a wonderful listen throughout. Reliving this album again before finally completing the review has been an exciting journey. Brave hit me harder this time, after being overshadowed by the other gems of this album, and WWWK finally got me to tear up and not just be emotionally satisfied.
I feel like there's something for everyone on this album. From the exhilarating thrills of TTT to the anthemic euphoria of QoH, the clubbing dichotomy of Trouble and Brave to the blissful glee of Basics, and the sweet reminiscence of WWWK to the thundering anger that is Gone. Like Eyes wide open, I liken Between 1&2 to a pop music taste platter — there's such an eclectic mix of pop, music in this album that there's bound to be a song that someone will love, like, and dislike.
Is this album perfect? I don't think so, but it's close — it was certainly my 2022 AOTY. Was this review biased? Absolutely. I've been a fan since 2019 and with the themes in this album, I also feel like it was biased towards me as a ONCE. And how would I rank the album in TWICE's catalogue? It's honestly at the top, at least with EPs — I also felt that way towards Feel Special but then this album was birthed so I'm excited for TWICE's future.
Ready To Be was also a stunning album and Eyes wide open frankly also deserved the spotlight that Formula of Love received so I might hit those next but no promises; this album took long enough to bake.
As for the performances, I've only seen Twitter clips (no fancams to not spoil myself) and I am SO EXCITED to finally see them in July. QoH was as glorious as expected, Brave was a delightful surprise, and WWWK, while not being the concert closer everyone expected it to be, paired up nicely with Crazy Stupid Love. And of course the bombastic addition of the dance break to TTT. But, this is not a concert review, and this is where this album review ends.
Feel free to comment with any thoughts regarding the album, other TWICE albums, and any suggestions for my writing in general. Congrats again on making it this far!
God, I love this album.

Yo, we ain't your average gangsters, we're unique, Eating berries, sharing feelings deep. Tapioca pudding drippin', bodies almost bare, Blap blap on thugs who don't appreciate the rare.
Decadent desserts, that's how we roll, Salad with cottage cheese, cuz we know our role. . Homie crapped his pants, yeah, it's a shame, IBS ain't stoppin' his game, with the dames. Rufus, the dawg, with model planes and prayers, Backwards hat, chain swingin', he's one of us players. He goes to church with his mom's on Sunday.
We're a crew like no other, breaking the mold, We also break some winds, So many gassy stories told; Stories of ketchup and fries and meatloaf. We ain't your standard oafs, we sophisticated. I'm pissed, but elated by the diversity out there.
Other crews ain't like us, and it's sad. They too scared to be themselves, like us, We the best in the world, all the fun we had. Got some girls one time, but now just our rhymes, and cancer. We all got terminal brain cancer, Cuz the basement waters full of lead. Soon we be dead, but no regrets. Bet.

So Kagami and Felix are both heavily implied/confirmed to be senti monsters at this point I think and it made me realise that technically the peacock user takes the role of the mother by making a senti monster while Duusu takes the roll of the father by supplying the mother with the necessary factors to make the senti monster so technically Duusu is the father of all sentis and therefore Felix and Kagami are half siblings
Also Felix refers to Red Moon as his sister, not daughter or creation which kinda exemplifies that
I have no regrets in making this, attack me in my DM’s I do not care-

I stumbled across Given after watching Sasaki to Miyano (such a good watch). I was expecting to see a cute love story about some boys who like to make music. I now realize it's actually a story of trauma and death and beautiful music and some boys happen to fall in love in the middle of all of that.
What I did not realize is that it will speak to you. It will force you to feel every emotion. I was not expecting for Mafuyu's back story to break me in the way that it did then finish with 2 episodes of happiness to break the emotional roller coaster you just went through.
When Mafuyu was at the beach and talking about memories and how they start to change and fade over time I lost it.
When that sweet child got on stage and opened his mouth to sing such an emotional and touching song I lost it.
When Uenoyama grabbed his face and kissed him. Telling Mafayu how great he was I lost it.
I have been listening to the music non stop because every time I still get goosebumps. I haven't watched the movie yet because I don't want the story to end even though another movie is coming soon (I believe) This show is a 100/10 must watch and I just want to put it all somewhere because I don't have friends who like anime.
Thanks for listening :)

We start the night after SummerSlam. Seth Rollins is still the World Heavyweight Champion after successfully defending his title against Finn Balor. On the Raw after SummerSlam, Rollins is jumped in the ring when Drew McIntyre's music hits and he makes his big return. He clears the ring and sends the heels running. He comes face to face with Rollins and the two have a respectful face off.
The next week, McIntyre is confronted by The Judgement Day, Balor challenges McIntyre to a match between the two of them, and the match is made official and is also a number one contenders match where the winner will get a title shot against Seth Rollins. Later that night in the main event, McIntyre and Balor have their match. There's attempted run ins by Dominic and Priest who both eat a double Claymore, McIntyre goes for the Claymore on Balor when Ripley distracts from the apron, Balor hits the shot gun drop kick into the corner and goes for the Coup De Grace, McIntyre rolls out of the way and then hits a Claymore for the 1-2-3. Immediately after the match, Judgement Day try to attack McIntyre when Rollins runs out and clears the ring with a chair, he's swinging wildly and ends up accidentally blasting McIntyre as well. The show closes with Seth looking at McIntyre with a sort of apologetic look while McIntyre is seething.
The next week on Raw it's announced that Seth Rollins vs Drew McIntyre will take place at Clash At The Castle 2 in Cardiff Wales on September 2nd, Rollins kicks off the show and calls for McIntyre to come out and explain himself. McIntyre comes out and immediately the two go face to face and are yelling back and forth off mic at each other, McIntyre lifts the mic to speak and instead just drills Seth with a Glasgow Kiss and stands over him as Seth lays unconscious.
We get to Clash At The Castle and the main event is the match for the World Heavyweight Championship, Seth Rollins vs Drew McIntyre. The match starts off fast paced with Seth dumping Drew outside to the floor, he then follows it up with a suicide dive driving Drew into the table, Seth then rolls back in the ring and hits another suicide dive again driving Drew into the table. Seth rolls back into the ring and goes for a third suicide dive but is instead caught by Drew and Belly to Belly suplexed across the announce table. Drew throws Seth back into the ring and goes for The Claymore but Seth counters it into a roll up for a close two count, the men pop up and Seth goes for the Pedigree but Drew powers him up onto his shoulders and hits Seth with a White Noise for a close 2 count. Drew begins to slap at Seth who's staggering to his feet, Seth then fires back with a forearm strike which angers Drew who goes for a clothesline, Seth ducks it and goes for a rip cord knee but Drew shoves him away, Drew goes for the Claymore but Seth avoids it and Drew accidentally blasts the ref.
Ref is down, and Drew is shocked, he turns around into a super kick from Seth, another one, and then a Stomp. Seth goes for the cover but the ref is still out, Seth goes over to the ref and is trying to pick him up when he turns around and is blasted with a Glasgow Kiss. Drew looks around and realizes the referee is down and slides out of the ring and grabs a steel chair, he looks around at the crowd and gets back in the ring and stands in the corner holding the chair. He again looks around the arena at the crowd with a look of conflicting and sadness before he takes a deep breath and has a killer look in his eyes, he steps forward and blasts Seth with the chair. He then just beats the ever loving hell out of Seth with the chair, just laying into him over and over again with the chair as it breaks into multiple pieces. Drew throws the chair out of the ring as the ref starts to stagger to his feet. Drew gets in the corner does the countdown and drills Seth with the Claymore and pins him 1, 2, 3.
Drew takes the title and celebrates as medical officials check on Seth.
The next week on Raw, it's announced that Seth will not be on Raw as he's still recovering from his injuries, but the new Champion is here tonight and he's going to come to the ring to celebrate and explain. Later that night the ring is set up with a table with champagne, Scottish memorabilia, man playing the bag pipes, and then Drew comes out and pretends to be the valiant warrior babyface champion before nailing the bag pipe player with a Glasgow Kiss. He then starts to clear the ring of all the nice celebratory items before grabbing a microphone. He says that ever since Clash he's just been asked "Why Drew, why?" And he says it's very simple, 1 year ago he was screwed over in front of his hometown crowd and had the glory stolen out of his hands and this year he was willing to do anything to prevent that from happening again.
The next week during an interview McIntyre is jumped by the returning Rollins and the two have a brutal brawl ending with McIntyre power bombing Seth through the announce table. The rematch is then set for Extreme Rules in a last man standing match.
Drew is able to win the brutal battle after he Claymores Seth head against the ring post and keeps him down for 10. Drew then goes on to have a monster heel run Champion before dropping the title at WrestleMania to either Rollins, or maybe a well built tweener Gunther.

Edit: there’s not possible way I can get through all these replies. First and foremost, I understand this is a public forum so I got what I got but I flaired this as a vent for a reason. I was fed up and just needed to air it out because I was tired of talking to my parents about the same old bs and I don’t have any friends right now because I’ve been so depressed and caught up with motherhood. With that being said, I wasn’t seeking advice but thank you for the unsolicited insight anyways, some of it was very helpful.
For those of you in the future who come across this post, things are already improving, I don’t need anyone trying to solve my life problems via Reddit. My husband is currently being mentored by my father to become a Network Engineer and will be testing for certs in the next 6 months. I’ve been living in this very inclement situation for the last 6 months and it’s has been so difficult to say the least. Again, I was just looking to let off so steam after another of my husband ridiculous comments. He apologized later on his own. Within the last 12 hours many things have improved. He also thankfully is interviewing for another position, actually FULL TIME hours, that makes $20-$25/hr so we’d be able to move out sooner than later. I know this isn’t alot long term but it’s a stepping stone. Im working very part time with a modeling agency that I didn’t mention but since I am pregnant I don’t get much work now. And I am doing freelance writing work as well so I’m not just existing even though being a SAHM battling a toxic living situation is a full time job within itself. a lot of you didn’t know the whole story and just jumped to all types of conclusions, whatever, it’s what to be expected honestly.
I’m not leaving my husband because he mildly abuses me. I hate it when it happens but I understand he’s a wounded man who is making poor choices but I know with the proper tools and help, he won’t always be this way. It’s just been a tough season on both of us. Yes, we shouldn’t be living here any longer but it won’t be for much longer thankfully. I’m just taking it day by day. I married my husband knowing he had PTSD but because I got pregnant on our wedding night, alot of things happened quicker than we expected and haven’t adapted as fast as we should, we both admit. I’m sure many can understand that. I love my husband incredibly and he isn’t a terrible guy at all, he struggles with the poor behavior his parents modeled for him and hasn’t learned yet how to be better in some ways, though he’s made some massive improvements. This situation is temporary and I’m treating it as such. Doesn’t mean it’s still hard, gosh. There’s alot more to our story but again this was just meant to be venting post, just take it for that. I’ve applied for WIC but unfortunately missed the phone appt so I have another one set up. I told my husband we’re going to the VA office this Friday to get some info and he said OK. We will reply for SNAP once we move out because we technically do share food and I don’t trust his family to give any statements for our benefits nor do I want them to help us any more. Thanks again to all of you trying to help and provide solidarity.
Original post: I am a SAHM to my 1 year old daughter. My husband makes $18/hr but only brings home $1800-2150/ month. His job unfortunately only schedules him 28-36 hrs/week and he doesn’t think he can handle another job because of how tired he is from the first. I’ve offered for me to get a daycare job , he said no. I’ve tried to get him VA disability, he doesn’t want to try (although he suffers from PTSD; he’s been out for almost 10 years). I tried applying for food stamps and because we live with his parent who make much more, we don’t qualify.
I’m close to losing my mind being in our current situation. We argue so often. Living with his family has been so toxic, we need to get out of ASAP. But because he doesn’t make 3x rent in our state, we can’t afford to leave. A lot of our arguments revolve around this living situation and our finances.
This morning, my husband’s stepdad comes into the kitchen and asked casually if my husband is going to pay him rent or can he not afford it. My husband says “ I’ll see what I can scrape by, definitely going to be short.” Then stepdad nods and walks away. The first 3 months we were able to pay him $1000 even though it left us with very little. But these last few months have been hard and since November we’ve been giving him $600 or $500. My problem is my husband will wait until the 4th or 5th, until his stepdad has to ask for it and he will just say, yeah I’m short and that’s it. He won’t explain, I only make $1800, I don’t work full times hours, he just leaves the guy in the dark. (His stepdad is the sole provider of his household, he used to make around $200k+ year but now I think he makes $175k or more. He supports my husbands mom, his 12 year old daughter and my husbands 27 year old brother who hasn’t worked in 4 years because of a vague kidney issue)
In the past I used to explain things to his family but it’s probably best now if I do not because of how badly things have gotten between me and them. Today I tried telling my husband that he should explain to his stepdad that he doesn’t make enough to pay him the rent he expects and he said he’s not going to do that because his income is not stepdads fault and $1000 is a fair amount. I don’t agree that $1000 is fair but my opinion doesn’t matter, obviously. My husband then went on to say that it’s my fault that we can’t pay him enough because I spend our money frivolously. For one, we have separate accounts, any money I receive my husband has to send it to me and I have to ask for it and tell him what it’s for. He doesn’t seem to understand that we do not make enough money to support a family of 3 ( I am currently pregnant as well). he is looking for a higher paying job but he consistently blames our tight finances on my habits as opposed to the blaring issue that we need more money to support ourselves.
He expects us to live off of $120 of groceries every 3-4 weeks. Meanwhile his family will eat some of our food and it ends up being gone within 5 days. I do the best I can as a breastfeeding, pregnant mother. I admit I get a $5 burger once a week and split it with my daughter because we out and about and I want to “treat myself” but that is not what is breaking the bank. My husband spend $15-$25/ week on tobacco vapes but I dare not bring that up. I often feel like the only way to get through to him is if I have a full on mental breakdown and I’m so close.

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I (26F) graduated with my Masters degree recently. The ceremony took place in a different state from my own, but is a 6 1/2 hour drive from my home town or a 1 hr 15 min flight, so not super far. I invited my bio-dad (41M) to attend the ceremony along with his partner and half-sisters. I am the oldest of my bio-dad's children.I have not had the best relationship with my bio-dad and his family. We did not speak or see each other for nine or ten years due to how I was treated by his partner and how he did not stop her behavior towards me. Throughout the years, my bio-dad did try and get back in touch with me, but I declined to speak with him.
We reconnected in 2020 right before lockdown when he reached out over social media and I decided to meet with him. Since then, we have rebuilt a relationship and usually see each other once a week.
When it came to inviting him to my graduation, I let him know almost seven months in advance so he could request the time off. He did and said he, his partner, and my two half-sisters would attend, which I was happy about. Fast forward to two days before the ceremony and he tells me that he is on call for work because all but one of his employees are going out of town for a sport event, and the one employee still in town is having a graduation party for his daughter. The thing is, my bio-dad is the manager at his company, so I feel like he didn't prioritize my event when I first told him.
My mom, who does not get along with my bio-dad, says his excuse is bullshit and that he is pulling the same stunts as he did when I was younger. I am hurt that he didn't come, because this is the first big life event that I have invited him to since we reconnected and I feel it was his chance to show he is here for me.
Should I tell him how I feel? Should I take this as a sign that maybe it isn't a good idea to keep a relationship with him?

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Now let's talk about that goal shall we? Yeah, the crazy goal Kaiser has just scored and who even had people saying that Lorenzo should have done better, which is terribly stupid as we will see soon.
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First of all, here is a gif to the whole play until Isagi gets the ball from Kunigami back in chapter 219
https://i.redd.it/xczp6k2l1v3b1.gif
As expected, Kurona already made a darting diagonal run down the middle to provide passing option. And for those wondering what a Sideback like Kurona does this high up the field, I invite you to go and watch Real Madrid vs Manchester City, the first leg game at the Bernabeu this season. Watch and See what Carvajal did during that game and fix your mouth before thinking that Bastard München is just a bunch of clueless players, but I digress.
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If you pay close attention, you will see that Grim is down his left side and Aiku is most definitely making sure that he won't let him free. Aryu and Abdi are now forming the CB pair down the center. Again the defensive structure remains aligned and unruptured. Nobody recklessly charges in, Ubers is all about slowing down the attack and identifying the threat in order to crush it. Except now, Ubers watch tower is blocked by Raichi who is using his body to not let Niko move an inch. Lorenzo is still on Kaiser and Peep Sendo who also tags along making it a 2 v 1 against the german emperor who so far has not made any darting run down the middle that would warrant him being seen as a threat in the current state of the field. You see, the german Emperor is an Apex predator who has found a worthy adversary in Lorenzo. Kaiser understand that all goal scoring opportunities will be rendered void if Lorenzo is in the picture. So Kaiser is patiently waiting for that future where Lorenzo would leave him to focus elsewhere. Now take a look at the bird Eye view again, do you see the right side of the field? Uber's defense is currently onpened on that side. Lorenzo knows it all too well. But at that moment it is not very obvious that Yukimiya could be a threat as Isagi is in a crowded area and may well lose possession of the ball.
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Isagi's vision of the goal

In Isagi's mind, given Uber's team strategy, Aiku will not charge in and defend on him. Similarly to this play here
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At no point did any Defender Charge in back then. So in Isagi's mind, this is how the play should unfold:
https://i.redd.it/k6at2ng83v3b1.gif
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Isagi passes the ball to his planet Kurona who sends it back to his Sun, a pass fast and high enough that even Aryu can't reach.
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And if you think this is BS and that Aryu should have been able to deal with it, here is the exact same scenario happening during the U-20 game. Aryu does not do well when facing shorter opponents and above every thing, there are passes that even he can't reach:
https://preview.redd.it/bkann99s3v3b1.png?width=717&format=png&auto=webp&s=29cef338c56e0af661487b345868abba977d0137
Kurona's game sense is definitely incredible. being able to send that pass, with the perfect timing and weighted perfectly too, incredible from him.
Now from Isagi's POV, you have to understand that Aiku was supposed to be watching Grim. So in Isagi's mind, Aiku coming to mark him is a play outside of Uber's strategy. This is why Isagi could not see it coming ( again the element of surprise here on Aiku's side which is a sign that Aiku read more steps ahead than Isagi).
As expected Aiku has MV, he too can see who does what on the field and can foresee potential outcomes. He definitely foresaw that Isagi coulda gotten the ball and immediately went there ahead of time. The thing is, if Aiku had to watch before reacting, he would have been too late and Isagi would have scored this goal. The fact that Aiku was able to block Isagi means that he moved ahead of time implying that he foresaw this. I will make a dedicated post on Aiku's use of MV later.
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Let's roll the clock back a bit. When Isagi manages to get the ball and as he is about to make a pass to Kurona, the state of the field immediately changed and Yukimiya becomes a threat that cannot be ignored anymore because Isagi or Kurona could potentially make a pass. And before people criticize Lorenzo, let's look at the situation closely. What are the facts? Yukimiya is totally free and if he gets the ball that's a situation with the highest goal probability.
https://preview.redd.it/r2ch04744v3b1.jpg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3ea7001dccc45b63f2176e29a638167fa2959bb1

Possible Scenarios

Isagi links up with Kurona then passes the ball to Yukimiya:
https://i.redd.it/cztz93t84v3b1.gif
Isagi passes the ball to Kurona who then manages to pass it to Yukimiya:
https://i.redd.it/2kejh8ya4v3b1.gif
Isagi is currently in a dangerous area with Aiku who can potentially go and defend on him while having Aryu nearby. You also have Raichi who positionned himself ahead of Niko so that he can receive a back pass, all the while blocking Niko who can't interfere and help the defense. Aryu will follow the team strategy and won't charge in and he will be on the lookout for whatever will be the outcome and it is clear that this whole situation has a lower goal probability than the Yukimiya's one.
So in Lorenzo's mind, it's obvious where he has to go right?
https://preview.redd.it/1f27c4if4v3b1.jpg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=34bf1f20aa2c0631cde42e20619600ed0c5a3f35
Now peep this, if a pass is to be made in the direction of Yukimiya, it can be a high cross to the far post , leading to an aerial battle between Lorenzo and Yukimiya. It can be a mid goal cross at medium high with more speed, leading to a speed contest between lorenzo and Yukimiya. It can also be a mid goal low cross at high speed, again leading to a speed contest. Now in all those situations the probability that Lorenzo gets the ball is not 100% guaranteed. However, what Lorenzo knows for sure is that if he goes close to Yuki, he can 100% prevent Yuki from getting to the ball. So Lorenzo is not trying to intercept the ball, he is trying to make sure that Yukimya does not get to the ball. This is the safest and more rational play. Plus, you have sendou now marking Kaiser and the area down the middle of the defense will be covered by either Abdi and Aryu or even both. Add to that the fact that Kaiser was not making any runs that could lead Uber's defense to thinking that he could have been a threat and that my friend is the exact future Kaiser was looking for.
This was just a high risk high reward play for Kaiser. For Lorenzo, it was a matter of stopping the immediate threat (Yukimiya). Both did what they had.
And here is the gif of the whole play:
https://i.redd.it/eu3tbk6t4v3b1.gif
This goal was made possible thanks to the organized chaos created by Kunigami so props to him. S/o to Raichi for putting Niko in lockdown. Raichi always knows who to crush down the midfield. We have seen it earlier when Team Z was playing against team V and Raichi completely shut down Reo, this time Niko had a taste of that. S/o to Yukimiya and Kurona providing options in the attack, it is true that had BM lost possession of the Ball, Ubers woulda scored a goal on the counter. BM is all about that high risk high reward mentality. We dig that.
While analyzing this play, it got me thinking, what Blue lock players do you think could have gotten to the ball like Kaiser did? I can only think of two: Barou thanks to his Isagi hunting and Rin thanks to him being able to react to whatever Isagi does.
However none of them could score from that. Evading Sendou's tackle, taking Aryu's nasty tackle without flinching and still take the shot and score? Naaah none of them could. The only one I can see doing so is Nagi but then Nagi would not have had the IQ to get to the ball in the first place. I even though about Shidou, but we know the guy specializes in direct shot as well. So Shidou would have probably taken the shot amidst Sendou's tackle and that woulda def trown his timing off. Again Shidou wouldn't have gotten to the ball in the first place...
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Snuffy was on crack when he told Barou that he had the best numbers as strikers cuz Kaiser is by far the most superior predator in the NEL.
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Let me know what you thought if you cared to read all this.

Throw away as my boyfriend uses reddit and follows my main.
I (26F) am having a rather small dispute with my boyfriend (31M) of 3 years. Just for some back ground info - I work 36 to 46 hours a week depending on my stores needs, and walk 2 miles a day (one mile to work and another mile home). My boyfriend works 40 hours a week and drives. In our household, chores are well...a chore. Neither one of us like doing them, and we're both rather depressed individuals. Because of this, the house had slipped into a depression den in the last month, which I'm now trying to rectify.
Over the last week, I've been doing laundry non-stop once I get home from work, as that's one of my chores. I can admit let it the clothes pile up really bad. I've been working my ass off to try and fix it while also trying to get the rest of the house back on track this last week.
On Monday, I asked my boyfriend to do the dishes. It's his one chore and the dishes have been overflowing this whole time. This caused a whole dispute as he wanted to know which dishes I needed clean so I could cook that night instead of cleaning them all. We've been spending a lot of money eating out, when I could be cooking, so I said I'd like ALL the dishes done. This caused another small dispute, and at the end he said he'd get the dishes done that day. Well nighttime rolled around, and they weren't done.
Well Tuesday came and went too. Wednesday when my boyfriend got in bed at the end of the day, he asked if I was mad about the dishes not being done yet. I said I was disappointed they still weren't done, but that I wasn't going to keep reminding him.
Thursday, I worked a 14 hour day. I'll admit when I got home at 11:30 PM, I was pleasantly surprised that half the dishes were done! I said "Wow! Nice!".
Friday - nothing again. Edit - the other half of the dishes were still in the sink.
That brings us to today, Saturday. We're both off. I've been up and doing laundry again. My boyfriend woke up, and before he hopped on his computer to play video games asked "Did I do a good job on the dishes?" I thought about it for a second and said "Yeah! You did great on the part of dishes you did!" He said I was an asshole for saying that and maybe I was. I apologized for saying that and it being a backhanded compliment. The more I sit here and think about it though, the more I'm not really sure if I was the asshole here...so reddit, am I the asshole?
TDLR : My (26F) boyfriend (31M) did half the dishes 3 days after I asked then asked if he did a good job on the dishes. I told him he did good on the part of dishes he did do. He thinks I'm an asshole for saying that. Am I?