Divorce law firm in bucks county

I hope this is allowed here. I'm formerly HL and my wife is and has always been LL, and around the time we were trying to conceive in 2017, my my anxiety began creeping up just being around her and I fully admit now that I had to drink or get high before we'd have sex because I was just so uncomfortable around her. We ended up going the IVF route, had sex a couple times during her pregnancy and only THREE times since our 4 year old daughter was born. I've been almost zero-libido myself and figured I could live like a hermit, like my dad, but the older my special needs kid gets (autism), the more I realize that I figuratively married my aspergers dad. I've always felt trapped and my emotional/social needs have absolutely not been meet.
I took a lot of therapy to come to terms with the fact that that my wife is the one on the spectrum and not me, which is completely fine is nearly ever regard, minus the social bonding skills she just never knew she was missing. I'm not angry at her or my dad or my own freaking daughter, but I'm 36 and socially starving to death. I talked to a divorce lawyer around Halloween 2022, got the money to pay the deposit, and literally two days later get a charge from my city about some bullshit police encounter when I tried taking my own life earlier in the year. Well, there went all that money to keep me out of jail. I had $4,200, needed $2,500 for the divorce lawyer, and now I only have just over $1k of that left and I feel absolutely trapped. I wanted to beat her to it and have everything on my end ready first, but I'm a walking example of Murphy's Law and have 21 days to get in gear.
Nobody in my family can help other than offering a couch 1,300 miles across the country, none of my friends are about to help out. I'm just venting.

So my mother got a call on her house phone (first odd thing) from a guy who left his name and number on the answering machine looking for my in-laws. The number he left is for an actual criminal law firm but not in the same city my in-laws live in.
I have two questions:

1. How did this firm get my parent’s land line number and
2. Why did they call them looking for my in-laws?

Should we simply ignore this? I would assume if it was a legit issue they would’ve left some more information or contacted someone via a different method. It’s kind of unsettling that they called a number that’s rarely (if ever) used and couldn’t call the people they were actually looking for. Anyway, any advice is appreciated.

Recently, my wife’s father passed away. He left a “Will” stating my wife will get everything and make all decisions for his funeral etc. 20 years ago he was in an accident and received a large portion of money from insurance. He gets money for the rest of his life or if he passed away payments would end 2028. He got divorced and had a separation agreement stating he will pay $1000 to his ex for the rest of her life. It does not state it will end if he dies. She was recently battling to get her payments raised to $2000+ a month from him so we were currently in lawyer talks with her mother because my wife is (POA). Now, with him passing this becomes an estate law issue I think? My wife is named beneficiary to everything but with the previous separation agreement her father had does her mother technically have a claim on this money because she’s suppose to get paid until her life ends?

Any insight or advice would be appreciated. I will try and keep this as brief as I can. Still LOOONG
I am a 48(m) divorced 2 years ago, 4 children. Wife kept the house I kept my 401K. was married for 12 years. . Took everything I had to boost my credit and find an apartment in a nearby city so as to remain close to the kids. Me and my coparent are on somewhat amicable terms.
Had ZERO intentions of meeting somebody new or even wanting to date after finding apartment and moving in awaiting divorce finalization.I did however process my divorce. Long story short, an old high school crush now 46, (whom rejected me years ago then immediately got knocked up by a guy I cant stand and had 2 kids with but never married) reached out via Facebook. ( I hardly ever am even on FB, timing I suppose) ( It should be said I have turned down many such women who rejected me in the past, this one however slipped through the cracks , so to speak
I vaguely entertained the thought of meeting up with her as she was requesting. We spoke on and off through messenger for a couple of months, maybe 3. Apparently since high school she has been in a string of bad relationships after another (I know I know, red flag), doesn't believe in marriage and was bitter about the fact she never got child support etc etc. She told me she had just gotten out of a relationship where she was basically the stepmom to a handful of little ones but and how hard it was to have to leave them. Now she was down and out she said and had lost everything after one of her friends committed suicide, her losing her car after being in an accident, and her father passing away around the same time and unfortunately was now having to live at her mothers.
I half halfheartedly agreed to meet her. I felt pangs of guilt even though my ex wife was the initiator of divorce. Later my ex wife would say I didn't even try to reconcile, which is patently false. . In either case, we were an instant hit. I am a few cities over she had never been to and was just thrilled to "finally meet and be with me, the guy she has really loved and had a crush on all these years". I told her I wanted to take things slow however with her having no transportation she used this to her advantage, and still does.
She started staying weekends and then I got tired of driving an hour back and forth twice a weekend so she talked me into staying as she needed a job anyway within walking distance. This is where things start to fall apart. She starts drinking heavily, like a 5th of vodka a day and smoking cigarettes all the time. Here I am trying to get away from that. Arguing ensues over bullshit. She makes a mess in the kitchen, leaves her clothes on the floor, lives out of bags, refused to hang them up etc. In short, acting like a belligerent child. I kick her ass out and take her back to moms. This goes on for months, back and forth. I find she still had pics of her and her ex in phone, an ex she DIDN'T TELL ME ABOUT.
Apparently, at the time we began talking she was [having sex with] this dude that lives in her neighborhood that was also a previous ex. So, she left the other guy to go home so she could [have sex with] him, and then sought me out and was partying her ass off but just didn't have a pot to piss in . My cousins all told me she was bad news and to stay away from her, I wish I would have listened. I am just on option to her so to speak. So now , I am like what[ ] ? She gaslights me and says I told you about him, we didn't [have sex] , blah blah her story changes left and right. We start arguing when she gets belligerent and she says vile shit so I say it right back, but then she hits me with the well he has a huge dick. Just terrible verbal and emotional abuse. I kick her out 5 more times. My dumb ass keeps picking her up , she keeps deceiving me, i think love bombing me I suppose.
I catch her on her fb with a new coworker,(28M married!) says its nothing, deletes him. Very suspicious. She quits as the job was shitty. We fight argue and bicker. I take her home but not before she lands another job. The new boss drives an hour to pick her up from her moms and brings her to her house where she stays for 3 months! Gives her an extra car to use! We are on and off. Her employer (female) gives her a 5 bedroom apartment for $600 a month on no credit and no deposit and she can walk to work! What the actual fuck. Were on and off. Now she drinks daily, a bottle or less, a lot. She starts fights and argues and bickers and disappears almost every weekend but only lives a few miles away and has deactivated her fb (still suspicious) and gives me keys to apartment and phone password. Says she loves me and only me and doesn't [care] about any so called "options" she may or may not have. She is very attractive but acts like she doesn't receive or notice male attention however I think this is complete and utter bullshit and gaslights the shit out of me. Swears she is true. I find a male pube on toilet seat , which seems odd. At work the bathrooms are separate.
So now, this woman has setup her treacherous lifestyle in my face and in the face of my ex wife and children I should mention. She hangs outside her apartment afternoons smoking cigarettes with her tits popped out , but "cant stand male attention". She wants me and only me. She starts arguments every Friday via text (never plans) but then blames me for treating her poorly and disappears to apartment and gets a bottle of vodka a day until Monday comes and she shakes and pukes from withdrawal. Then she begs and pleads and says she cant live like that she needs to do better and we get back together and everything is great until the vicious cycle continues. Its been going on almost 2 years, I love her but I want to slap the piss out of her ( i wont though , cuz laws) I do not see her the majority of weekends. Usually she calls every so often wasted on Sunday for a booty call it seems.
She makes me happy when she wants to. The majority of the time I am not happy, she does not meet my needs, and is not reliable. So I already have my answer there. She gives me anxiety and somehow makes me feel bad about myself and I honestly have never experienced this before. It is soul crushing. She blames and gaslights and deflects and manipulates and deceives. This woman literally did not even know the meaning of the word empathy! She is cruel and possessive and we are still addicted to each other. I know I need to end it. I could go on but believe it or not this is the short version .
Why do I still love her and vice versa? Has she [messed] my mind up and trauma bonded me ? There is no reason to stay since she causes me more grief than happiness I understand the logic but then why does my heart still belong to her? She has outright admitted jealousy and envy of me, my ex wife, etc. Does she just want her cake and eat it too? She doesn't want to let go of me. I have the keys to her apartment and the password to her phone and she swears up and down she isn't cheating but yall know as well as I motherfuckers be slick.
Is she just keeping me as a placeholder until something better comes along ? I mean , she obviously kept me on the back burner from the jump ,talking to me the entire time she was [having sex with] her ex. Leads me to believe she was talking to him while she was playing step mom with the other dude. How is it I love this woman? She has no redeeming qualities I can think of! She is unpatriotic, and weaponizes feminism. Whatever, Ill shut up . I will say she is a master at blame and deflection and manipulation. Also, drunks lie, oh my god how they lie..I dont trust her further than I could throw her.
My question to you is WHY ? Am I just a toy to her? All she talks about is me me me, I am her screen saver on her phone. She "has given up everything for me to be here for me" (but ditches me every week!) I am so confused by this woman. I mean, I already know this shit needs to end, but HOW? And also how do I come to terms with the possibility of this woman living down the street now just getting drunk and doing whatever she does with all her male orbiters . The shit hurts and I am pissed at myself. I have definitely learned some boundaries. What sticks with me the most is, when someone tells you who they are, believe them . M gut feeling has been screaming at me as well the entire time.
Thank you for any insight and guidance, I appreciate it immensely . I have so far told her its over and blocked and deleted her its been almost a week of NC and I feel better already. She sought me out when I was at my lowest point. Karmic soul tie is all i can think.

The story was absolutely hilarious in a sense that, as many people have already said, it makes no sense whatsoever. A dumb bitch who just steals the whole fucking garage out of the blue, two mayor candidates one of which wants to crack down on racers by giving Camaros and Corvettes to cops who crash on civilians while going 200mph and another one who is a retarded 80 year old Joe Biden 2.0 and then a racing scene who victimizes themselves by using the dumbass argument of "We are just a bunch of kids who want to have fun and express ourselves by endangering other people's lives and destroying public property, we don't mean any harm, we are oppressed blah blah blah).
My 10 year old nephew could come up with something way more interesting. How did they read this plot and go "Oh yeah this is the one we should go with"?
The handling feels weird and the drifting feels sloppy, all over the place, uncontrollable, completely unsatisfying and has no connection to real life physics whatsoever. I was only able to feel like I was in control of my car when I reached S+ and tuned my car for grip only. Why couldn't they make it work just like Heat? That wasn't perfect either but it was 10 times better than this shit. I think the burst nitrous was a really good addition but it gets overshadowed by the terrible handling, because how can you enjoy the full burst NOS when 90% of the times you don't know whether you're gonna end up in a tree or miss a checkpoint?
The cops are also very badly programmed and 80% of the times you don't even have to do anything to shake them off, you just hit the gas in the highway and wait for them to kill themselves and the civilian they smashed into. The choppers are the worst addition ever. Why would you make them spawn right in front of where I am trying to go and why the fuck would you have them patrolling as if the whole fucking city is under martial law? Also why are they non-existent during online races? Why do online races not have an impact on your heat level progression? Why do you lose your heat level once you lose the cops?
And of course we can't forget to talk about the terrible matchmaking. It takes half to one hour to get a race in the tier I want and it can easily take up to two hours to find a full race. Of course by the end of the race there will be 2-3 people left in the playlist but that's an other story.
So in conclusion, my question is this: How did they manage to miserably fail in the most basic functions of a Need for Speed game? How did they manage to not only fuck up the story, but also the multiplayer? And how the fuck will this get the support that it was promised for a whole year, in the state that it is now? It is just and endless money pit for EA. They will probably give up on it in a few months just like they did with Heat, which didn't deserve to be abandoned like that, but Unbound sure does deserve it.
I can't even imagine how people who paid a whole 70 euros for this feel right now, because I am out here looking at my 25 bucks like a girlfriend who just got railed by the dude next door and then broke up with me when I found out.

Where in Duluth/Superior are the businesses and law firms. Where are the bars that the lawyers and business men, etc will be?

Original prompt: [WP] It was decreed that a human would bear twins. One an Angel, the other a Devil. Each would be given to the opposite species to teach them about respect and love. It's been five years and the Fallen Angel who came up with the idea is eager to know how the twins are doing. (link)
Bethany Fray looked at the assembled figures around the table and sighed. It had been months since she'd seen any of them, including her own children, and she was glad this whole... experiment was finally coming to an end.
At one end of the table was Galia the Gilded, 14th angel of the circle of brass, and Bethany's sister in law. She was wearing her finest astral silk robes, and had brought her charge to the meeting, the now 18 year old Natalia Fray. Natalia was also dressed in fine astral silk, and seemed to wear it with pride in spite of the fact that the massive jagged spikes growing out of her shoulders didn't allow the robe to rest as easily as it should. She was also utterly oblivious to the room around her as she was busy tinkering with some kind of metal object instead of watching the boring adults talk about boring legal papers.
On the other side was Tharalax the Beheader, 9th demon of the pit of ire. He was garbed in black spiked armor, and had brought along his own protege, the 18 year old James Fray. James hadn't dressed up in armor, but was instead wearing a loincloth, iron bracers, and a metal chain wrapped around his torso, which looked quite strange on his lithe angelic frame. It did show of the few tattoos etched across his chest, but as the meeting was one of business it seemed rather inappropriate. His expression conveyed mostly frustration, but it seemed more like sulking than any sort of anger directed toward anyone present.
"So we're in agreement then? All the T's are dotted and the I's crossed?" Tharalax asked.
"Tharalax, it's cross the T's and dot the I's," Galia said.
"Same difference," Tharalax said.
"Yes, I believe that's it. Now we just have to wait for the... absentee to arrive," Bethany said.
The group waited in silence for a moment, as nothing happened.
"Well, that would've been a fine time for him to show up, but my brother has never been known for his punctuality," Galia said.
It was at that moment that the door burst open, and the fallen angel Yariel stumbled in, a wine bottle in his hand. His physical appearance was immaculate, but his posture and tardiness were much more representative of his actual personality.
"Hey everyone! I see we're all doing dandy!" he said. He swayed to the side, nearly falling over before catching himself and taking a drink from his bottle. "Well, let's get this party started, eh? Find out what our kids have been up to for the past few years!"
"Yariel, the agreement was that we check in every year. It's been fourteen, and this is the first meeting you actually showed up for," Bethany said.
"Fourteen years? Ah jeez, well you know how time flies when you're having fun!" Yariel said.
"Right... Well, I guess we should summarize for my ex-deadbeat," Bethany said.
"Whoa now, who are you calling a de- wait, did you say ex?" Yariel said.
"Yes. I assume you didn't check your mail? Here, I brought a copy of the divorce papers with me," Bethany said, sliding a folder full of papers across the table to the fallen angel.
"Hey, come on, Beth, baby, we could still make this work," he said.
"It's been almost a year since I began the proceedings and almost 17 months since we last saw each other," Bethany said.
"It's just a little hiccup, I've been busy with all that business in the underworld," Yariel said.
"Our relationship wasn't that good to begin with, Yariel! I haven't been truly happy in over a decade! I still can't believe you sent our babies off just to avoid having to raise them," Bethany said.
"Hey! This was an important diplomatic project!" Yariel said.
Galia cleared her throat to cut off the argument before it heated up any more.
"Bethany, you don't need to justify yourself, five of the six people in this room agree that you're in the right," she said. "Now, since my idiot brother has been appointed, despite any common wisdom or decency, as the arbiter between the planes, we do technically need to keep him in the loop."
"Really feeling the love, sis," Yariel said.
"Young Miss Natalia has undergone the finest schooling available in the heavens. The kind of schooling which her father shirked so regularly we could almost set a clock to it, but which she has taken to like a duck to water. In fact, just a month ago we received word that she has been accepted to one of the most prestigious trade schools in the astral plane," Galia said.
"Oh, well great! So things are going well then?" Yariel asked.
"...Yes, brother. Things are going... Well," Galia said, the disgust audible in her voice. "And since Bethany has just made it clear that you are incapable of opening your own mailbox, I will deliver this notification myself."
Galia pulled an envelope out of her robe, sliding it across the table toward him, right next to the folder containing the divorce papers.
"Uh..." Yariel said.
"Since I'm not even sure you remember how to read, I will explain posthaste," Galia said, her voice speeding up, to the point of rattling off like a machine gun as she got going. "You are, as we all know, banished from the heavens, and that has not changed, so given that young Natalia will be busy at school for the next few years, and possibly remaining in the heavens indefinitely, this is something of a formality. Still, I hereby present you with this restraining order, stating that outside of these mandated meetings you are not permitted within 500 feet of Natalia. I will not be having my hard work undone by some drunken layabout who thinks holy scripture is an acceptable replacement for toilet paper."
"What? You can't keep me from my own daughter! Mom and dad would never let a form like that get through," Yariel said.
"Would you like to check the approval stamp?" Galia asked. For once, she looked almost eager as Yariel eyed the envelope in front of him.
"Nevermind. Tharalax, blood bro, come on, you're not gonna stab me in the heart as well, are you?" Yariel asked.
"Bah, it's fortunate your son is tougher than you are or he'd probably be face down in a ditch right now. As it happens, the reason for his getup is that he took 17th place in a combat tournament just before this meeting," Tharalax said.
"That doesn't sound very impressive," Yariel said.
"There were 100 competitors, it's very impressive for someone with no natural physical advantages to speak of," Tharalax said.
"I would've won if I was allowed to use magic!" James said, cutting into the conversation. His voice was a bit more gravelly than the typical angel due to growing up surrounded by smoke and brimstone, but the melodious undertone of the heavens still carried through.
"I know, Jimmy, but magic's not allowed in tournaments. Besides, purging your opponents is just bad form," Tharalax said. "But back to the point, in just about everything else he's been practically running the show. Legal trickery, mysticism, showmanship... Hell, rumor has it that his ambition is so strong that even old Luke was getting nervous about him. Kid's got a few followers as well, and he hasn't even begun staking claims on territory yet!"
"They're not followers, Tharalax, they're friends," James said. "Some people have those, you know. People they enjoy hanging out with even if they don't expect material benefits from it."
"Ha! There you go with that fancy jargon, I can hear the old traitor quaking in his boots already," Tharalax said. "But in other news, my blood debt is paid, Yariel."
Yariel didn't react at all to the news, just cocking his head inquisitively.
"Of course, you never even bothered to learn the lingo of the underworld. I'll summarize: I don't work for you anymore," Tharalax said.
"Okay? Is that relevant to me in some way?" Yariel said.
"It means if I ever see your stinking carcass in my lair again, I'll have your hide for a coat," Tharalax said. "And if I find you poking around my stash again, I'll do the skinning myself."
"Whoa, bud, I thought we were cool!" Yariel said.
"Deference in the face of one's superior is just common wisdom in the pits of hell! You're the most obnoxious guest, the worst commander, and the most disgusting creature I've ever seen!" Tharalax said. "Your boy is a part of the clan now, and these ladies are welcome to visit if they like, but if I never see your sorry face again it'll be too soon!"
"Calm down, dude," James said. "We get it, dad's the worst."
"Yes, yes. Can't believe I lost a duel to that incompetent wretch," Tharalax said.
The room quieted down for a moment, as the tensions in the air grew more strained...
"Yes! Finally finished!" Natalia said, breaking the silence. She looked up for the first time since arriving, seeing everyone arrayed there. "Mom! James!"
The demon girl ran around the table and wrapped her muscular arms around her mother and brother.
"Easy there, sweetie, I still have to breathe," Bethany said.
"Sorry, I haven't seen you guys in forever!" Natalia said.
"No kidding! Happy Birthday, sis," James said, attempting to wriggle an arm free from her grip.
Natalia let the two of them go, giving James a chance to reach for the bag he'd stowed under the table. From inside, he removed a hatchet with a rough black handle and a serrated edge.
"I was hoping I'd be able to bring the trophy from the tournament as a gift, but I lost so I had to go with my backup plan," James said.
"Oh, don't be like that! I love it, the craftsmanship is always so interesting on demon weapons..." Natalia said. She ran her finger along the edge and touched the carefully carved out nodules on the handle. "Boy, they sure love spikes, don't they? Even when spikes would be counterproductive, they end up adding things that resemble them."
"I wonder why," James said, poking one of his sister's shoulder spikes.
"Oh, and here's your gift! I finished it just in time!" Natalia said, handing her brother the metal statuette she'd been working on during the meeting. The craftsmanship was perfect, though the image it depicted was... abstract. It most closely resembled a figure of a female torso, but only vaguely.
"Ah, thank you. Just to check, is this a magical item?" James asked.
"Oh! Yes, here," Natalia said, moving her brother's arm so the statuette was held in the light. Instead of a vague metal image, the light was reflected in such a way to create an image on the desk in front of it. The image itself was of the heavenly city of brass. "I know you mentioned you wanted to see it, so I figured if you couldn't fit a visit into your schedule you could at least have a look."
"Thank you so much, Natalia. Ah! And Xantha sent this for you as well," James said, pulling a bottle containing a glowing light out of his bag. "Bottled hellfire, fun at parties."
"Ooh..." Natalia said, taking the bottle. "And how are things going there?"
"Pretty solidly, I think," James said.
"Ah, is Xantha the little harpy you've been hanging around with?" Tharalax asked.
"She's a fury, Tharalax! They're completely different!" James said.
"Bah, distinction without a difference," Tharalax said.
"What? No! Harpies are nonsapient animals! Furies are a demonic race descended from angels! The difference is very important!" James said.
"Well, there you go! See, Yariel? He's been down there 14 years and he's already teaching me things! You've been in and out of there for 50 and you can barely communicate without an interpreter!" Tharalax said.
"Yariel? Is our dad here?" Natalia asked, looking around and spotting the fallen angel throwing back wine. Given that it was the first time she'd seen him since she was small, and that she'd missed the entire prior conversation, she seemed a bit let down by his appearance. "Ah... I guess that's him?"
"What? No hug for your old man?" Yariel asked.
"I don't know, I'm a little afraid you might jinx me," Natalia said.
"What? What kind of lies is my sister filling your head with?" he asked.
"I have told no lies, brother," Galia said.
"But they do call it 'Pulling a Yariel' when someone does something stupid, and ends up breaking something important or valuable," Natalia said. "I heard it a lot when my shoulder spikes first came in... so many broken vases..."
"And Tharalax does make a point of marking out when I've beaten your record at something. It's usually not that difficult to be honest," James said.
"Not that sandbagging my brother will ever get tiresome, but what say we finally square away this business and have a proper 18th birthday for these kids?" Galia asked.
"Yes, I've got the cake ready back at the house. Since he actually showed up this time, and the kids haven't even shared an actual conversation with him, I guess Yariel can stay for the party," Bethany said.
"Oh thank god... Wait, wasn't there something about a restraining order?" Yariel asked.
"We'll consider this part of the meeting," Galia said. "At least, this time, but I wouldn't expect this to set a precedent if I were you, brother."
"Of course," Yariel said, noticeably less excited.
"If you'd been into the whole 'being a dad' thing, the last 18 years would've been a lot more pleasant for everyone," Bethany said.
"Mom! Birthday!" Natalia said, already stepping through the doorway.
With that, the group set out for the Fray household, to celebrate the twins' first day as true adults and the promising futures that await them... As well as make a few more jokes at Yariel's expense.

I work in a law firm in the UK, in a tech support role, and basically everyone wears suits and stuff.
How the hell am i gonna hide my boobs? Any advice? Shirt is required, but anything above that is kinda up to the individual, so any advice would be massively appreciated.

I am a 2022 law school grad practicing in a midsize litigation firm. I had good grades in law school and am a conventionally competitive applicant for federal clerkships, but didn’t get anywhere when I applied during law school.
I’m still interested in applying. Clerking seems to be a fascinating learning experience and it’s something which will help set me apart as I advance further in my career. However, I’m pretty happy at my current firm and don’t want to leave if it isn’t worth it.
Does anyone have thoughts on going to clerk after a year of private practice, especially on the relative value compared to continuing on as a second year associate?
I should also mention I am pretty open minded still about what areas of law I want to do. I handle a lot of different stuff with my firm. I’m also very interested in trying to break into appellate law or potentially something relating to government. Not sure how much that changes the analysis as to relative value but I like keeping many options open. Not overly interested in biglaw though I’d consider it too.
Thanks everyone.

Hello Everyone,
I graduated this month with a two-year degree in paralegal studies. For the past few weeks, I have been applying to multiple jobs and have had several interviews scheduled.
My first interview was with a law firm that I really wanted to work with, and I felt that the interview was going great. I am very qualified for the position, and I speak Spanish, which is a huge deal in my area. However, one of their questions completely threw me off. The main interviewer asked me, "What are your salary expectations?" I don't know why I was so unprepared for the question. For some reason I thought that they would never ask me anything about money. For reference, the average paralegal in my city makes between $23 and $28 an hour. I panicked for a second and blurted out $16. SIXTEEN FUCKING DOLLARS AN HOUR.
I currently work at dunkin donuts and make $17 an hour. Why would I give such a stupid answer?! The interviewer's eyes lit up, and suddenly they were much kinder to me. I left the interview, telling them I would think about it and get back to them.
I am writing this post for two reasons. Firstly, to vent. Secondly, I am seeking advice on how to better handle situations like this in the future. Also, should I reach back out to them and ask them for a reasonable wage, like $23 and above, or should I cut my losses?

I’m an old lawyer. 33 years in practice in my small firm of 6 lawyers. I’m lucky because I was born to do this. Reading all the posts on this sub, I’m shocked by how often people say they are dissatisfied and looking to change careers. Making lawyer-money is REALLY hard if you aren’t practicing law. I hope those who are dissatisfied will look to a different area of the practice instead of just quitting. The practice is quite diverse. Think about what Al Pacino said in The Devil’s Advocate, “A law degree. It’s the ultimate back-stage pass.” True.

Not sure if this is the right sub for this; please let me know if it’s not!
I’m making a list of potential legal careers in the domestic violence/child abuse niche and wanted to know if you all had any other general employers to add to the list. While I’m interested in unicorn PI opportunities, I’m being more realistic since I want a family and hope to settle down near the end of my twenties/early thirties. My desired salary range is between 90k and 150k if that helps and I know that these aren’t exactly entry-level positions.
Here’s my list. Note: I’m talking about jobs in smaller cities, not necessarily crazy competitive big cities like NYC.

• DA/prosecutor jobs + jobs in their offices
• Legal Aid
• CPS
• state ACLU/regional Planned Parenthood
• family law firms

Are there any employers I’m missing? Maybe any state/fed government specialty offices/branches or nonprofit/orgs who focus on these issues? Thank you!

I am 18 years old and just applied for a Cadet position in my county. It had me fill out if I’ve ever done drugs. I smoked weed once back in February (first time trying it.), I did not like it and haven’t done it since. I have however taken THC edibles and disposables a handful of times since. (The stuff you can buy at a smoke shop.) Which is not illegal by law, but illegal because I’m under 21. I admitted to everything for the sake of having to take a polygraph test if the accept me.
Will they even consider me knowing this? I am definitely not a pot head and I don’t take edibles often. (Earlier this month was the most recent.) I am worried I won’t be allowed to join because of this.

My husband and I have been having issues around communication lately especially when it comes to talking about money.
To be clear I hold a lot of blaming this guy. I've had issues with compulsive spending since I was a child. It is something that I am actively working on. I am in therapy. I work with a psychiatrist. I take meds and I use tools that we have put in place to try and prevent over spending and spending money on things that are not necessary. We have been in counseling for well over a year regarding this, and some general communication issues.
There is one issue that to me has become a hard boundary when my husband and I communicate about money. Specifically, he speaks to me in a way that really makes me feel terrible about myself. I have let him know about this. We have talked about it a lot and where I am Making the effort all the time to try and fix the things I'm doing that are upsetting and distressing to him. He's still can't seem to just mind his tone when he talks to me when we're supposed to be engaging and a discussion and conversation about things. He has a tendency to catastrophize our financial situation we do run to zero quite often. However, we are paying our bills. We are a little behind on a couple of things because we had a water heater issue and that came with an unexpected large bill. We owe maybe about 500-600 He is acting like we're going to lose the house at any moment I have checked we are not
I have laid out a firm boundary about the way that I will be spoken to, and that the tone that he takes with me to money and discussing things is not acceptable, and he has even admitted plan that if somebody spoke to our children the way that he spoke to me, he would be very upset
I have plainly told him that this needs to change because I cannot be in a relationship where I am made to feel like garbage. I don't know if he doesn't care by zero effort has been made and our marriage. Therapist did a watermelon session with him but my husband directed. The conversation is mostly being about money and therefore the communication issues were not really discussed in a productive way When attempting to schedule our next session, our therapist did not have a lot of time, and I expressed to him my distress that this was going to be approaching a learning how to coparent situation rather than a fixing the relationship situation He called my husband and my husband agreed to another one on one session, but my husband has also double down on the way he was speaking to me and today I got upset that I didn't really want to give him a hug or show him any affection because it doesn't feel nice to be made to feel like garbage by your partner
He says the whole reason he feels really strongly about this is he wants to be able to do nice things with his family and go nice places with his family, the thing that really concerns me is he is gotten to a place where I'm about at my breaking point. I've set a very clear boundary. I've asked him to work on this and he just doesn't seem to care.
I have detailed to him all of the work I have done with respect to trying to fix the issues I have with money and being more responsible and less impulsive and resisting my serotonin seeking behaviors (which I've also explain to him, making me feel like a piece of garbage does not help me in resisting that) He has made no progress really at all. We're in the same cycle where he'll talk to me like that at some points he apologizes most of the time he doesn't and then he just wants to act like nothing happened. I don't know what to do with this point I don't want to leave I don't want to get a divorce up until this past year after we had our third child things were great I had a really really rough go of it with postpartum anxiety and developed OCD after our last kid and I have been working really hard to be the wife and mother that he and my kids deserve. I just don't understand why he doesn't seem to care

My husband and I have been having issues around communication lately especially when it comes to talking about money.
To be clear I hold a lot of blaming this guy. I've had issues with compulsive spending since I was a child. It is something that I am actively working on. I am in therapy. I work with a psychiatrist. I take meds and I use tools that we have put in place to try and prevent over spending and spending money on things that are not necessary. We have been in counseling for well over a year regarding this, and some general communication issues.
There is one issue that to me has become a hard boundary when my husband and I communicate about money. Specifically, he speaks to me in a way that really makes me feel terrible about myself. I have let him know about this. We have talked about it a lot and where I am Making the effort all the time to try and fix the things I'm doing that are upsetting and distressing to him. He's still can't seem to just mind his tone when he talks to me when we're supposed to be engaging and a discussion and conversation about things. He has a tendency to catastrophize our financial situation we do run to zero quite often. However, we are paying our bills. We are a little behind on a couple of things because we had a water heater issue and that came with an unexpected large bill. We owe maybe about 500-600 He is acting like we're going to lose the house at any moment I have checked we are not
I have laid out a firm boundary about the way that I will be spoken to, and that the tone that he takes with me to money and discussing things is not acceptable, and he has even admitted plan that if somebody spoke to our children the way that he spoke to me, he would be very upset
I have plainly told him that this needs to change because I cannot be in a relationship where I am made to feel like garbage. I don't know if he doesn't care by zero effort has been made and our marriage. Therapist did a watermelon session with him but my husband directed. The conversation is mostly being about money and therefore the communication issues were not really discussed in a productive way When attempting to schedule our next session, our therapist did not have a lot of time, and I expressed to him my distress that this was going to be approaching a learning how to coparent situation rather than a fixing the relationship situation He called my husband and my husband agreed to another one on one session, but my husband has also double down on the way he was speaking to me and today I got upset that I didn't really want to give him a hug or show him any affection because it doesn't feel nice to be made to feel like garbage by your partner
He says the whole reason he feels really strongly about this is he wants to be able to do nice things with his family and go nice places with his family, the thing that really concerns me is he is gotten to a place where I'm about at my breaking point. I've set a very clear boundary. I've asked him to work on this and he just doesn't seem to care.
I have detailed to him all of the work I have done with respect to trying to fix the issues I have with money and being more responsible and less impulsive and resisting my serotonin seeking behaviors (which I've also explain to him, making me feel like a piece of garbage does not help me in resisting that) He has made no progress really at all. We're in the same cycle where he'll talk to me like that at some points he apologizes most of the time he doesn't and then he just wants to act like nothing happened. I don't know what to do with this point I don't want to leave I don't want to get a divorce up until this past year after we had our third child things were great I had a really really rough go of it with postpartum anxiety and developed OCD after our last kid and I have been working really hard to be the wife and mother that he and my kids deserve. I just don't understand why he doesn't seem to care

My husband and I have been having issues around communication lately especially when it comes to talking about money.
To be clear I hold a lot of blaming this guy. I've had issues with compulsive spending since I was a child. It is something that I am actively working on. I am in therapy. I work with a psychiatrist. I take meds and I use tools that we have put in place to try and prevent over spending and spending money on things that are not necessary. We have been in counseling for well over a year regarding this, and some general communication issues.
There is one issue that to me has become a hard boundary when my husband and I communicate about money. Specifically, he speaks to me in a way that really makes me feel terrible about myself. I have let him know about this. We have talked about it a lot and where I am Making the effort all the time to try and fix the things I'm doing that are upsetting and distressing to him. He's still can't seem to just mind his tone when he talks to me when we're supposed to be engaging and a discussion and conversation about things. He has a tendency to catastrophize our financial situation we do run to zero quite often. However, we are paying our bills. We are a little behind on a couple of things because we had a water heater issue and that came with an unexpected large bill. We owe maybe about 500-600 He is acting like we're going to lose the house at any moment I have checked we are not
I have laid out a firm boundary about the way that I will be spoken to, and that the tone that he takes with me to money and discussing things is not acceptable, and he has even admitted plan that if somebody spoke to our children the way that he spoke to me, he would be very upset
I have plainly told him that this needs to change because I cannot be in a relationship where I am made to feel like garbage. I don't know if he doesn't care by zero effort has been made and our marriage. Therapist did a watermelon session with him but my husband directed. The conversation is mostly being about money and therefore the communication issues were not really discussed in a productive way When attempting to schedule our next session, our therapist did not have a lot of time, and I expressed to him my distress that this was going to be approaching a learning how to coparent situation rather than a fixing the relationship situation He called my husband and my husband agreed to another one on one session, but my husband has also double down on the way he was speaking to me and today I got upset that I didn't really want to give him a hug or show him any affection because it doesn't feel nice to be made to feel like garbage by your partner
He says the whole reason he feels really strongly about this is he wants to be able to do nice things with his family and go nice places with his family, the thing that really concerns me is he is gotten to a place where I'm about at my breaking point. I've set a very clear boundary. I've asked him to work on this and he just doesn't seem to care.
I have detailed to him all of the work I have done with respect to trying to fix the issues I have with money and being more responsible and less impulsive and resisting my serotonin seeking behaviors (which I've also explain to him, making me feel like a piece of garbage does not help me in resisting that) He has made no progress really at all. We're in the same cycle where he'll talk to me like that at some points he apologizes most of the time he doesn't and then he just wants to act like nothing happened. I don't know what to do with this point I don't want to leave I don't want to get a divorce up until this past year after we had our third child things were great I had a really really rough go of it with postpartum anxiety and developed OCD after our last kid and I have been working really hard to be the wife and mother that he and my kids deserve. I just don't understand why he doesn't seem to care

My husband and I have been having issues around communication lately especially when it comes to talking about money.
To be clear I hold a lot of blaming this guy. I've had issues with compulsive spending since I was a child. It is something that I am actively working on. I am in therapy. I work with a psychiatrist. I take meds and I use tools that we have put in place to try and prevent over spending and spending money on things that are not necessary. We have been in counseling for well over a year regarding this, and some general communication issues.
There is one issue that to me has become a hard boundary when my husband and I communicate about money. Specifically, he speaks to me in a way that really makes me feel terrible about myself. I have let him know about this. We have talked about it a lot and where I am Making the effort all the time to try and fix the things I'm doing that are upsetting and distressing to him. He's still can't seem to just mind his tone when he talks to me when we're supposed to be engaging and a discussion and conversation about things. He has a tendency to catastrophize our financial situation we do run to zero quite often. However, we are paying our bills. We are a little behind on a couple of things because we had a water heater issue and that came with an unexpected large bill. We owe maybe about 500-600 He is acting like we're going to lose the house at any moment I have checked we are not
I have laid out a firm boundary about the way that I will be spoken to, and that the tone that he takes with me to money and discussing things is not acceptable, and he has even admitted plan that if somebody spoke to our children the way that he spoke to me, he would be very upset
I have plainly told him that this needs to change because I cannot be in a relationship where I am made to feel like garbage. I don't know if he doesn't care by zero effort has been made and our marriage. Therapist did a watermelon session with him but my husband directed. The conversation is mostly being about money and therefore the communication issues were not really discussed in a productive way When attempting to schedule our next session, our therapist did not have a lot of time, and I expressed to him my distress that this was going to be approaching a learning how to coparent situation rather than a fixing the relationship situation He called my husband and my husband agreed to another one on one session, but my husband has also double down on the way he was speaking to me and today I got upset that I didn't really want to give him a hug or show him any affection because it doesn't feel nice to be made to feel like garbage by your partner
He says the whole reason he feels really strongly about this is he wants to be able to do nice things with his family and go nice places with his family, the thing that really concerns me is he is gotten to a place where I'm about at my breaking point. I've set a very clear boundary. I've asked him to work on this and he just doesn't seem to care.
I have detailed to him all of the work I have done with respect to trying to fix the issues I have with money and being more responsible and less impulsive and resisting my serotonin seeking behaviors (which I've also explain to him, making me feel like a piece of garbage does not help me in resisting that) He has made no progress really at all. We're in the same cycle where he'll talk to me like that at some points he apologizes most of the time he doesn't and then he just wants to act like nothing happened. I don't know what to do with this point I don't want to leave I don't want to get a divorce up until this past year after we had our third child things were great I had a really really rough go of it with postpartum anxiety and developed OCD after our last kid and I have been working really hard to be the wife and mother that he and my kids deserve. I just don't understand why he doesn't seem to care

Tl;Dr: i've set a boundary about being spoken to in a certain way and my husband does not care.
My husband and I have been having issues around communication lately especially when it comes to talking about money.
To be clear I hold a lot of blaming this guy. I've had issues with compulsive spending since I was a child. It is something that I am actively working on. I am in therapy. I work with a psychiatrist. I take meds and I use tools that we have put in place to try and prevent over spending and spending money on things that are not necessary. We have been in counseling for well over a year regarding this, and some general communication issues.
There is one issue that to me has become a hard boundary when my husband and I communicate about money. Specifically, he speaks to me in a way that really makes me feel terrible about myself. I have let him know about this. We have talked about it a lot and where I am Making the effort all the time to try and fix the things I'm doing that are upsetting and distressing to him. He's still can't seem to just mind his tone when he talks to me when we're supposed to be engaging and a discussion and conversation about things. He has a tendency to catastrophize our financial situation we do run to zero quite often. However, we are paying our bills. We are a little behind on a couple of things because we had a water heater issue and that came with an unexpected large bill. We owe maybe about 500-600 He is acting like we're going to lose the house at any moment I have checked we are not
I have laid out a firm boundary about the way that I will be spoken to, and that the tone that he takes with me to money and discussing things is not acceptable, and he has even admitted plan that if somebody spoke to our children the way that he spoke to me, he would be very upset
I have plainly told him that this needs to change because I cannot be in a relationship where I am made to feel like garbage. I don't know if he doesn't care by zero effort has been made and our marriage. Therapist did a watermelon session with him but my husband directed. The conversation is mostly being about money and therefore the communication issues were not really discussed in a productive way When attempting to schedule our next session, our therapist did not have a lot of time, and I expressed to him my distress that this was going to be approaching a learning how to coparent situation rather than a fixing the relationship situation He called my husband and my husband agreed to another one on one session, but my husband has also double down on the way he was speaking to me and today I got upset that I didn't really want to give him a hug or show him any affection because it doesn't feel nice to be made to feel like garbage by your partner
He says the whole reason he feels really strongly about this is he wants to be able to do nice things with his family and go nice places with his family, the thing that really concerns me is he is gotten to a place where I'm about at my breaking point. I've set a very clear boundary. I've asked him to work on this and he just doesn't seem to care.
I have detailed to him all of the work I have done with respect to trying to fix the issues I have with money and being more responsible and less impulsive and resisting my serotonin seeking behaviors (which I've also explain to him, making me feel like a piece of garbage does not help me in resisting that) He has made no progress really at all. We're in the same cycle where he'll talk to me like that at some points he apologizes most of the time he doesn't and then he just wants to act like nothing happened. I don't know what to do with this point I don't want to leave I don't want to get a divorce up until this past year after we had our third child things were great I had a really really rough go of it with postpartum anxiety and developed OCD after our last kid and I have been working really hard to be the wife and mother that he and my kids deserve. I just don't understand why he doesn't seem to care

Hey I'm pretty new to poker (texas hold'em specifically) and have been practicing on Megahit poker on my iphone. I went to Vegas recently and played for a few hours at the horseshoe at a 2/4 limit game with fixed raise amounts to try and get some experience... lost about 150 bucks but took down a few hands and quickly realized how different playing in person is.
When I'm playing online, often people are just going all in preflop constantly since the money is imaginary which is a pretty useless game for me to try develop strategy and get experience. I can't play real money online games in California because of the laws to my knowledge.
Any recommendations of better online games that will help me actually improve? I'd like to play at some local LA casinos but I feel I need a little more experience before I start throwing money away at those games.

I need to rant because I feel like I might explode without anyone to talk to. Basically, my husband and my family haven’t been getting along since I got pregnant.
Long story short, my parents have been less than perfect in my husband’s opinion and they’re distant from any other issues going on between myself and my siblings- which, as upsetting as it is, I’ve gotten over it because 1) they’re old and live far from all of us, 2) they have never been extremely involved in emotional issues between us, 3) have always addressed our complaints/feelings one on one rather than in a group setting and, 4) we are all adults so what are they going to do if we fight? Ground us?
The problem is that my husband moved closer to my family because they were super supportive and loved (still say they do) him like a son. However my parents moved, and we lived with my siblings for the last year or so. During which I miraculously got pregnant and basically everything went to shit because all of us had our own crap going on and such. My husband has been feeling abandoned by my parents as they never addressed any issues going on in the shared house and often times took his sibling-in-law’s side vs his pregnant wife’s, while still telling me to relax and not stress. Admittedly this is true and was a huge problem for me, making the inter-sibling issues even worse. I have talked to both my parents about it and they’ve both apologized to me, both said they were in the wrong but just like always, nothing they can really do. My dad tried to talk to my husband but he was checked out already, and finished with them all, which made an even bigger impact and was really disappointing to me. My mom has made no move to apologize to him and feels like that is something my husband needs to reach out to talk over if he feels like he has something to say.
The issue is he doesn’t have anything to say. He feels like they should have reached out to us long ago and apologized. I’m willing to accept that our family dynamic will never be the same again- I’m willing to accept no big family gatherings and week-long holidays, calling my parents when my husband isn’t home, etc. What I’m not willing to do is sacrifice any and all contact, especially after baby is born. It has been extremely important to me to have my mom come stay with us after birth since we started trying over three years ago and even before that, watching her help my sister when she had her kids. Now, my husband is refusing to allow her to come- to the point that he would rather file for divorce because he feels like they are not his family and I would be disregarding the emotional toll its taken on him- he has been suffering depression and anxiety for half a year because of everything going on. Its really heartbreaking to hear he would rather separate than let me deal with the mental and emotional and physical load childbirth and pregnancy in the way I want/need to. I don’t feel like asking for two weeks, mom staying in a hotel, is being selfish.
I have been trying to be supportive, compromising, caring, forgiving and understanding to everyone involved as well as to myself. I’ve been the middle man trying to explain both sides and asking for both sides to put their feelings and personal opinions aside for just two weeks to be there for me and this baby.
Now I just don’t know what to do with two months left before my due date and its starting to feel like I am drowning.
Edited to add: I’m not looking to be told divorce is the best option; so please refrain from writing so. My husband is wonderful- he has been since we met almost a decade ago. He has been loving and supportive but he is going through a very hard time, and has been for a while. I’m just looking for someone who can commiserate or relate and give me some advice for dealing with the situation.

I applied to another paralegal role based on the job description matching my current position for a lot more money and bonus opportunities. I am set to have a second interview this week. I am having a hard time rationalizing leaving my current position. I know I haven’t been offered yet, but I am feeling an immense amount of guilt. I have been with my current practice for 5 years. I currently handle every aspect of the firm management in addition to my role as a paralegal. I work for a solo and I feel as if she relies on me for everything even down to her personal life. We are close, but I feel like I haven’t been fairly compensated for just how much I do for her. She has mentioned on several occasions that she is aware I am underpaid, but that we are having cash flow issues. Mind you, I haven’t received a raise or even a cost of living adjustment in over two years but my role at this practice has only increased by ten-fold. Where we used to have three paralegals and a file clerk, we only have me and a less than useful front desk assistant, but our case load has not changed.
The firm I applied to is at a big law firm in a downtown skyscraper (a work experience I have always wanted. Stupid, I know). I have never worked in big law, just mid tier and small. The role is a pretty coveted position as that team has hardly any turnover. They are offering a hybrid schedule, which my current firm doesn’t offer and has been a sticking point for me. I have ADHD and I really struggle with the in-office environment because the constant distractions really make it difficult to do my job. Knowing I will have a few days where I can really focus sounds great. I know big law isn’t for the weak, but it would be refreshing to not be in charge of an entire practice AND the attorney’s personal life and finances.
I have a pretty lenient PTO policy at my current firm due to the fact that I am basically the last man standing and she’ll let me take as much PTO as I want to appease me. We also do not have a billable requirement, whereas the new firm has a 1600-hour requirement. I thought about using any potential salary offer as leverage with my current attorney but I feel like she would resent me just knowing I was looking. She takes those things VERY personally since she has basically tried to integrate me into her family. She also would ideally like me to go to law school and take over her practice one day. It has always been the dream to go to law school, however, I just don’t see it being feasible to take over. She owns the building our offices is in which is now currently worth about 4 million. I would have to buy it and the practice name off of her already rich kids? Don’t think that would ever be possible considering she doesn’t want to pay me fairly now as a paralegal LOL.
Despite all this, I still feel an immense amount of guilt. She has her flaws but I am very close with her and her family and have a lot of leniency at this practice. I basically make my own rules. I just don’t know what to do.